It's not clear whether there is an order in place or not. Since you are looking into locating an attorney I assume you are just beginning the divorce process. If she got a RO on you, I'm shocked that she got a vehicle. When you locate an attorney, file a Motion for Mental Health Evaluation. Be prepared for her to counter and for you to be submitted to one as well. Do not violate the RO in the interim. If she is truly BPD, be careful, these are the true nuts and pure f'n evil. She will play dirty and so should you.