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FATHER LOOKING FOR HELP WITH CUSTODY

Started by ANGELOMFLORES, Apr 20, 2007, 08:31:39 PM

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ANGELOMFLORES

MY NAME IS ANGELO FLORES, A FATHER OF A 12 YEAR OLD BOY THAT I LOVE AND MISS VERY MUCH. I AM IN A SITUATION THAT I THOUGHT I WOULD NEVER HAVE TO DEAL WITH, YET I FIND MYSELF NEEDING HELP IN ORDER TO SEE MY SON. HIS MOTHER AND I HAD MY SON WHEN WE WERE REALLY YOUNG AND HAVE NEVER BEEN ABLE TO GET ALONG EVEN THOUGH WE HAVE TRIED MANY TIMES TO MAKE IT WORK. FOR THE FIRST TIME IN MY LIFE I HAVE MADE IT CLEAR TO THE MOTHER THAT I WILL NO LONGER TRY TO MAKE IT WORK BETWEEN US BECAUSE I FELT THAT I DESERVED SOMEONE THAT WOULD CARE FOR ME AND BE FAITHFUL TO ME. SINCE I MADE IT VERY CLEAR TO HER FOR THE FIRST TIME IN HER LIFE SHE HAS REALIZED THAT SHE HAS LOST ME AND THIS HAS MADE IT VERY DIFFICULT TO SPEAK TO HER ABOUT SPENDING TIME WITH MY SON. IT IS ALMOST IMPOSSIBLE TO HAVE A LOGICAL PEACEFUL CONVERSATION WITH HER ABOUT ANYTHING WITHOUT HER YELLING SCREAMING AND USING FOUL LANGUAGE TO MAKE ME GIVE UP AND HANG UP THE PHONE. I FEEL AS IF I AM A FAIR PERSON AND TRY TO BE CONSIDERATE OF OTHER PEOPLES FEELINGS AND SITUATIONS BUT I FEEL AS IF MY CONSIDERATE NATURE IS BEING TAKEN ADVANTAGE OF. IF I CONTINUE LETTING HER RUN THE SHOW WHEN IT COMES TO MY SON, THEN I AM AFRAID THAT THE RELATIONSHIP BETWEEN MY SON AND I WILL SUFFER. I WANT TO MAKE IT CLEAR THAT I DONT WANT TO MAKE ANYTHING DIFFICULT FOR ANYONE, IN FACT I WANT THE BEST FOR EVERYONE INVOLVED. I HONESTLY BELIEVE THAT HIS MOTHER OVERALL IS AN EXCELLENT MOTHER TO MY SON. I JUST DONT WANT TO BE LEFT AT A DISADVANTAGE WHERE MY RELATIONSHIP WITH MY BOY IS AT THE MERCY OF HER EMOTIONS. MY SON AND I HAVE ALWAYS REMAINED CLOSE AND HAVE A STRONG BOND THAT I BELIEVE MIGHT BE WEAKENING DUE TO INFLUENCES AROUND HIM THAT I CANT CONTROL. I DONT WANT TO TAKE ANYONE OR ANYTHING AWAY FROM ANYONE, I JUST WANT TO BE ABLE TO HAVE SOME CONTROL OVER WHAT HAPPENS TO MY SON AND HOW OFTEN WE CAN SPEND TIME TOGETHER. AFTER ALL HE IS MY SON AND I WANT THE BEST FOR HIM. I AM CONFIDENT THAT WHOEVER HEARS MY STORY WILL BE ABLE TO RECOGNIZE THAT I AM NOT IN ANY WAY TRYING TO BE MALICIOUS OR VINDICTIVE IN ANY WAY, ALL I WANT IS TO HAVE WHAT I BELIEVE IS RIGHTFULLY MINE; THE RIGHT TO SEE MY SON. I DONT KNOW WHAT MY NEXT STEP SHOULD BE WHICH IS WHY I AM WRITING THIS. HOPEFULLY SOMEONE THAT IS MORE KNOWLEDGEABLE IN THIS ARENA CAN LEND ME A HAND OR AT LEAST POINT ME IN THE RIGHT DIRECTION. THANK YOU FOR YOUR TIME AND ATTENTION AND I LOOK FORWARD TO YOUR RESPONSE.

SIGNED, A FATHER IN NEED OF HELP,

ANGELO FLORES

Jade

>MY NAME IS ANGELO FLORES, A FATHER OF A 12 YEAR OLD BOY THAT
>I LOVE AND MISS VERY MUCH. I AM IN A SITUATION THAT I THOUGHT
>I WOULD NEVER HAVE TO DEAL WITH, YET I FIND MYSELF NEEDING
>HELP IN ORDER TO SEE MY SON. HIS MOTHER AND I HAD MY SON WHEN
>WE WERE REALLY YOUNG AND HAVE NEVER BEEN ABLE TO GET ALONG
>EVEN THOUGH WE HAVE TRIED MANY TIMES TO MAKE IT WORK. FOR THE
>FIRST TIME IN MY LIFE I HAVE MADE IT CLEAR TO THE MOTHER THAT
>I WILL NO LONGER TRY TO MAKE IT WORK BETWEEN US BECAUSE I FELT
>THAT I DESERVED SOMEONE THAT WOULD CARE FOR ME AND BE FAITHFUL
>TO ME. SINCE I MADE IT VERY CLEAR TO HER FOR THE FIRST TIME IN
>HER LIFE SHE HAS REALIZED THAT SHE HAS LOST ME AND THIS HAS
>MADE IT VERY DIFFICULT TO SPEAK TO HER ABOUT SPENDING TIME
>WITH MY SON. IT IS ALMOST IMPOSSIBLE TO HAVE A LOGICAL
>PEACEFUL CONVERSATION WITH HER ABOUT ANYTHING WITHOUT HER
>YELLING SCREAMING AND USING FOUL LANGUAGE TO MAKE ME GIVE UP
>AND HANG UP THE PHONE. I FEEL AS IF I AM A FAIR PERSON AND TRY
>TO BE CONSIDERATE OF OTHER PEOPLES FEELINGS AND SITUATIONS BUT
>I FEEL AS IF MY CONSIDERATE NATURE IS BEING TAKEN ADVANTAGE
>OF. IF I CONTINUE LETTING HER RUN THE SHOW WHEN IT COMES TO MY
>SON, THEN I AM AFRAID THAT THE RELATIONSHIP BETWEEN MY SON AND
>I WILL SUFFER. I WANT TO MAKE IT CLEAR THAT I DONT WANT TO
>MAKE ANYTHING DIFFICULT FOR ANYONE, IN FACT I WANT THE BEST
>FOR EVERYONE INVOLVED. I HONESTLY BELIEVE THAT HIS MOTHER
>OVERALL IS AN EXCELLENT MOTHER TO MY SON. I JUST DONT WANT TO
>BE LEFT AT A DISADVANTAGE WHERE MY RELATIONSHIP WITH MY BOY IS
>AT THE MERCY OF HER EMOTIONS. MY SON AND I HAVE ALWAYS
>REMAINED CLOSE AND HAVE A STRONG BOND THAT I BELIEVE MIGHT BE
>WEAKENING DUE TO INFLUENCES AROUND HIM THAT I CANT CONTROL. I
>DONT WANT TO TAKE ANYONE OR ANYTHING AWAY FROM ANYONE, I JUST
>WANT TO BE ABLE TO HAVE SOME CONTROL OVER WHAT HAPPENS TO MY
>SON AND HOW OFTEN WE CAN SPEND TIME TOGETHER. AFTER ALL HE IS
>MY SON AND I WANT THE BEST FOR HIM. I AM CONFIDENT THAT
>WHOEVER HEARS MY STORY WILL BE ABLE TO RECOGNIZE THAT I AM NOT
>IN ANY WAY TRYING TO BE MALICIOUS OR VINDICTIVE IN ANY WAY,
>ALL I WANT IS TO HAVE WHAT I BELIEVE IS RIGHTFULLY MINE; THE
>RIGHT TO SEE MY SON. I DONT KNOW WHAT MY NEXT STEP SHOULD BE
>WHICH IS WHY I AM WRITING THIS. HOPEFULLY SOMEONE THAT IS MORE
>KNOWLEDGEABLE IN THIS ARENA CAN LEND ME A HAND OR AT LEAST
>POINT ME IN THE RIGHT DIRECTION. THANK YOU FOR YOUR TIME AND
>ATTENTION AND I LOOK FORWARD TO YOUR RESPONSE.
>
>SIGNED, A FATHER IN NEED OF HELP,
>
>ANGELO FLORES

First, can you please turn off the all caps, it is hard to read and considered yelling on the internet.  Thank you.

Second, you need to file in court to get a clear parenting plan set up.