ya know....I think the first step is to go pull the physical file yourself and see what HAS been filed and read up on all the paperwork there.
Secondly, if you and your husband are talking -- figure out how to do it pro se and "fire your attorney" of record.
THEN I would file a complaint with the state bar association.
Not sure I agree with filing a complaint and then hoping another attorney will be assigned
pro bono.
Also, here in Alabama there's an association of attorneys where they list pro bono attorneys and stuff. There's a free law clinic where you can see an attorney twice a month and stuff. Start searching on-line or call your state's capital and start asking for pro bono attoney's or free law clinics. And go from there.
The family law clerk here in our county could GUIDE me a lot, but not tell me what the law was regarding decisions and stuff. She'd say you need form 1, 2, 3, and 4 and they are on line. So I'd fill that out and give it to her. THEN I'd keep asking her the next PROCEDURAL step -- not for law advice -- VERY fine line.
Or do you have a local university with a law school -- they might be of help too.