I have been through all this crap . Its all the same , I would leave all the crap out and just say thanks for the notice of your vacation time , I would like it before such and such date because I plan vacations also , And I understand .
Also remmember that some people will make trouble out of anything , And the bottom line is Be nice, and if all else fails thats what the parenting plan
is there for , , Screw all the comments ,don't waste you time. say the child will be ready for your pick up at the designated time , Is there any thing that Child needs to go for the vacation I will be glad to send it if it is within My resources , have a great vacation ,
As a note I have had great luck with My child in just telling him his mommy is a big girl and she is very strong and she is ok when you are here ,
I also have had to refute her telling him what a terrible person I am ,
And that I am bad and do bad things ,
I said . Look at me Buddy , If mommy said I was blue, do I look blue? " He said " No" So ,I said If momy say's I am Bad ,does it make me Bad , He say's ' She say's you do bad things , " I said " Well If she said I was Blue would you believe it < He said Your not blue , So I said How do You know I'm Not blue , He said " Because I can see that You are not" Then I said " Have you seen Me do any thing bad ? He said "No " So I said I'm Not blue or bad , And you can see that " he seems to get it when I tell him that , So He does fine with Me .
I also, under the advise of a good counselor , Had to deal with him saying other things his mom tells him , The counselor said' Just pass it off . And say' , 'I know mommy say's those things and she can think that if she wants to " But I love you and care about you " And then just get on with life ,, He also does better with this , Sicko's tell kids all kinds of crap, don't be part of it , The counselor told me , that Little kids are checking out there reality , And they usually need positive reasurance , I have learned that getting mad in front of him and saying anything like "thats stupid " Or" moms being bad" ; DOESN'T HELP AT ALL and seems to make him worse , He is more relaxed if I just Say what I told you I say ,