I appreciate the fact that some of you are realizing that the court OBVIOUSLY saw agreat deal wrong with the mother in this case. What you dont know is that she took the kids and went out of state while I was at work one day, wouldnt let me see them unless I drove 600 miles R/T each weekend, and then only with her present and at her relatives house.Wouldnt even let me see them alone ! I had to get a temp order forcing her to let me see them every other weekend ( thats how the precednt started)then to court where she loses.
To point out how correct they were in that decision, she was willing to sacrifice safety for what she "perceives" to be her time, because she can, and not giving weight to the safety issue. The fact that she was offered make up time and declined in spite of the impending weather
( which was factual and did ice, etc as predicted) shows that it is all about her.
I do not hate her,I feel bad that she cannot live in the reality of the situation SHE asked for and created. She does hate me, she is bitter and vindictive, takes 0 responsibility for losing the children OR the divorce SHE asked for.She stopped taking her meds ( ADHD,Anxiety disorder, etc)or seeing counselor as it is more convenient to blame all on me, say I am a manipulator ( says I manipulated the judges, and even her attorney) and play the victim all the time.
I was the one who begged to stay together, not rush to divorce, but after she had an affair 1 week after court when she lost custody, I saw that she was clearly not thinking about her "marriage".nor couls she possibly really care about me.
Long story short, yes there is bitterness on both sides, difference is I always err on the side of whats best for the children, regardless off a few hours and she always errs on whats best for her and how she can show me that she still can control me (thru the kids).
I know that time with the children is precious, but remember this 3 hours was time they are strapped in car seats while she is driving , so not exactly time being spent playing with them.I am sorry, trading 3 hours of drive time in exchange for insuring their safety is what a responsible parent does, a selfish one says "it is my time no matter what". My point is that if she is unwilling to compromise over safety when it is verifiable and preventable, what happens in an emergency ?
Bad judgement is bad judgement and No , I was not taking her to court for contempt, I was ( as one of you correctly articulated) merely seeing if it could be contempt as I see more of this coming and I need to protect the children from any foreseeable safety issues, that is exactly why I have custody, as the court felt I would make proper decisisions for the children, it is both my moral as well as legal obligation.