On Sept 30, my son was transferred to my primary custody at age 13. It was the wisdom and support that I gathered on this site 9 years ago that allowed me to persevere and be here at the time I was needed. His mother made a large gamble in a relocation hearing in a last effort to remove me from his life, and although I was pro se against an experienced relocation attorney, my ex failed in the attempt.
Now my son gets to speak to both parents everyday. Now he gets to see his mother whenever it is feasible. Now my son can heal from being torn apart so much as he has been.
Thank you everyone who helped me in the early years, and thank you for being here in this season of rejoicing. For you old timers, I was here as Lacunar back then. For some reason I could not get that name to work anymore, so I logged in as Kalkir.
If you are down, hurt, on the point of despair: DO NOT GIVE UP. Every little thing you do every day will brings it own reward, and you can make it through to the other side.
Congratulations on succeeding in your endeavor to be there for your child no matter the costs (mostly emotional).
Great news - good things do come to those who wait and don't give up (http://www.deltabravo.net/forum/Smileys/default/smiley.gif)
Way to go, Lacunar! And it's great to hear from you again! Your son WON BIG TIME! Thanks for the update and enjoy your relationship together!
GOOD JOB!!!! I cant also wait for my time to come...very stressful process..im glad yours is over...
Congrats!
Congratulations! (http://www.deltabravo.net/forum/Smileys/default/cheesy.gif)
that is great! my husband has had some luck going pro se with the ex having an attorney and its great to hear that if its right, you dont need anybody to fight for you.
Congratulations to you and your son!
Of course gradualations are in order big time.
At the same time, you may have some big challenges forthcoming so stay focused while being elated.
Best to you and your son !!!!!
Wonderful story! Many congratulations. I just can't get enough of seeing, hearing, reading stories with such positive outcomes - even when they take so very long to come to resolution.
Congrats to you and your son! I totally believe what goes around, comes around. We have recently had some rejoicing to do as well, after three years of agony, false allegations, etc. It is hard to remember in the heat of the moment, but overall, all both parents should be concerned with is what is in the best interest of their child/children. I know, easier said, then done.
God Bless. (http://www.deltabravo.net/forum/Smileys/default/smiley.gif)
Thanks everyone! Again, in the first rough times, it was this site that was a main source information, perspective, and support. I will never forget that. When my son is older, I will have him come here to read up what waits for the unwary: fore warned is fore armed.
The biggest and most important piece of information anyone can get here is this: a parent must get through all the emotional distress to see just what does their child really need in the current situation, and then do whatever you can to make sure those needs are met.
Sometimes a non custodial parent is nearly powerless to protect their children, but whatever power you DO have must be directed at those children's needs based on a priority of needs. Each situation is different, and each situation will change many times over during the course of the years.
Take the long view: if it is a long hard grind to get just a few basic needs met, then resolve that is what it will take. Having then taken the long view, each day do what you can to make progress on those goals, and then, LET GO. Then get up the next day to do it again.
Congrats on your win!
My husband and I have been fighting the same battles for 4 years now. I hope we are as rewarded as you in our attempts to keep my stepson in our lives! We have fought so long and so hard it comes to the point to where you don't think you have any fight left! But I know the best thing is to suck it up and keep moving. I really am thankful for this site as well. My husband and I are going to court next tuesday to try and obtain custody of my stepson. I have worked so hard to get all of our paper work together (which put in a folder is about 4 inches thick! lol). I have researched day and night for months. I have put my whole heart and sole into this... I just pray we get the blessing we've worked and prayed so hard for! So again CONGRATS ON YOUR WIN!!! Enjoy that Son of yours! They are only young once and now's the time to soak it all up!