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Her fires have damaged more than the house.  The fire investigator was the main witness in the temp filing.  He thinks she is a "nut case".  

Thanks; I hope it all goes well.!

I posted questions on Soc's board, but thought I would tell the BIG story here.  

I WAS the NCP of 6yo daughter.  As of Friday, I have temp custody, and a TRO.  Due to 3 fires at the Mother's house in the last week, Judge agreed daughter was in danger!  Thankfully, we have had daughter during all of this.   Mother is in the process of moving in with her Mother and Step-Father.  Her house has been foreclosed, and she is being evicted.  

We have actually had daughter the majority of the time the last 3 years.  Mother has been unemployed the last 2 years, and her children have become her means of support.  (She also has a son by a different Father.)  Needless to say, she is very angry and vindictive about my temp order.  She was served yesterday, and the hearing is Friday.  I have been told this hearing is basically a formality; and the showdown will be later, when I am going for full, permanent custody.  

What are our chances of winning this?  I am really torn right now!  Have I done the right thing by my daughter, or have I just made it harder on her in the long run, if I should lose?  

Please, feel free to ask me more if you need more info or clarification.  I am going crazy with worry that something will come up, and I can't keep my daughter safe.  

Sorry to hear about your situation.  We have documentation and have had the child the majority of the time the last 3 years; roughly 2/3's of the time last year.  We have already talked to an attorney, but are waiting now to see what will happen next.  The BM (after she got over her fit) asked if we wanted daughter back on Thursday, as usual.  So, we have her now!  She won't go back to BM until Monday after school.

I don't know what will happen when we go to court; the GM is (JMHO) unstable, so we are being very cautious not to upset the arrangement we have now.  We are trying to be sure that when we file, we can win.  We saw BM's father today, and he and his family are all on our side.   The BM's parents were divorced when she was very young; she never had any stability in her life, so she sees nothing wrong with the way she is living now.  

We just want to try our best to protect this little girl.  

Thanks regarding phone call; I thought that was the way it should be.  I know she was listening because she called back immediately after I hung up and admitted it.  And it all went in the journal; I have pages and pages of notes for the attorney.  

Thanks for you input!

The other ex is prior, and after; their son is 8.  He is the one BM moved in with when she left husband while pregnant with daughter.  But, he kicked her out when daughter was still a baby, so he can't help much there.  Their relationship has been on again, off again for years; that is one reason we don't know whether to trust him or not.  But this time I really feel he has had it with her too.  

His reasoning for being helpful to us would be to help his own case.  He would like to go the custody of his son, too; but is afraid of the fall-out just like we are.  I guess time will tell.

Also, BM admitted she was "monitoring" our phone conversation with daughter yesterday.  Is that considered "unimpeded" telephone call?  Just asking.  

We received a surprise phone call last night from BM's other ex, the father of her other child. He is ready to go fight now; hubby told him we were still trying to work it out, but don't how much more we can take. Hubby asked other father if he would be willing to talk to our attorney. He said he would. BTW, he says the grandmother's house they are moving in is still nasty; and BM has told him they are moving to other grandparents house.

We know from his own admission that he behind on his child support; do we really want him involved in our case, or does he spell trouble?

We have forwarded copies of our journal to our attorney; she was out of town, and hasn't gotten back with us yet. Also, hubby called his daughter yesterday afternoon, and she was upset and didn't want to do her homework. I talked to her on the phone and told her to settle down, she could do it ok. I also told her to call me back if she got stuck, and I would give her a hint. BM then called hubby back and told him to tell me they didn't need my help. So, I guess I am out of BM's good graces. LOL

Thanks regarding phone call; I thought that was the way it should be.  I know she was listening because she called back immediately after I hung up and admitted it.  And it all went in the journal; I have pages and pages of notes for the attorney.  

Thanks for you input!

The other ex is prior, and after; their son is 8.  He is the one BM moved in with when she left husband while pregnant with daughter.  But, he kicked her out when daughter was still a baby, so he can't help much there.  Their relationship has been on again, off again for years; that is one reason we don't know whether to trust him or not.  But this time I really feel he has had it with her too.  

His reasoning for being helpful to us would be to help his own case.  He would like to go the custody of his son, too; but is afraid of the fall-out just like we are.  I guess time will tell.

Also, BM admitted she was "monitoring" our phone conversation with daughter yesterday.  Is that considered "unimpeded" telephone call?  Just asking.