Here is where it begins, or rather it begins yrs ago, but you probably want to see the "case" as it stands today.
3 weeks ago i filed for custody of our daughter.i did this because the motherwe will say her name is Brenda, asked me to do it because she is only getting 50 dollars of the 160 a week i pay to child support. her reason for this is " why pay them 160 when im only getting 50, get joint custody so we can have your child support taken away and u just give it to me". so like a fool i agreed. our court date was scheduled for 7/25/07 (yesterday) @ 215pm. co i came home from visitting my mother at 11 am, to find the NYS police at my door. i invited them in and they said they wanted to discuss something with me. i agreed. they started asking me when, where, how often i have my daughter, does she stay over night, where does she sleep, does she bath on her own or does she require help...on and on. by now i already know where this is leading but cant cant quite fathom it. I mean what father who does nothing but love and cherise there child could. so finally they tell me exactly why they are here. it turns out Brenda filled a complaint with child prtective services on 7/23/07 (two days before our first appearance), claiming that i had "innapropriate contact" with our daughter. CPS then did then shuttled our daughter to an unknown location to "interview" her. at this point when the State Police left i hurried to be able to make the court appearance. when i got there our childs, law guardian was there and she asked me questions about the family court case. at this time i told her what just happened. as soon we got into the court she told the judge that BRENDA just told her about the alligations which was B.S. that part doesnt really matter but i feel you should get a feel for the type of ppl im dealing with. so natural the judge post poned everything untill the investigation is over. after court i raced to the office of the CPS. i met with the investigator at CPS who is handling this report. nice lady of about 21 or 22. come to find out she is the one that interviewed our daughter. with all do respect how much experiance could she really have in this type of situation? so we had a lengthy conversation that didnt really accomplish much and i was actually the one giving out more information and answering more questions from her even though i sought her out. any ways the most important thing i learned was that the interview with my daughter was not video taped, nor was it recorded. all that was done is she wrote out notes AFTER she did the interview.
In this day in age you are probably well aware of the research done on how kids of preschool age are so easily made or coerced or led (choose your word) to say, or admit or accuse most anything or anyone of anything. i spent the entire day searching the web for any information on this. I went to Yahoo search and typed in "leading questions child molestation" and got 247000 hits. the very first link i clicked on had me dumbfounded. Here is the link and you draw your own conclusion
http://www.deltabravo.net/custody/bridges1.php#Intro
i think at this point perhaps i should go into mine and Brendas relationship. obviously we are no longer together as of 2 yrs ago. she has since found another man to support her and had a child with him. any ways its been an on and off again friendship. from the way i see it when I have money were friends when i dont im the devil in her eyes. when i give her what she wants guess what were friends, when i dont give her what she wants guess what?...you guessed it. 4 mont5hs ago i tried to get custody of our daughter, unknown to her. what i didnt relize was that she got a copy of the petition. oh my God you should heard the telephone conversation we had...or i should say she had. Ive never heard such cussing and foul language before in life (and i spent 3 yrs in the navy). so any ways 2 days after the phone call i had Child protective services at my house, saying that they heard i didnt have any food in my house and that i had power tools everywhere , which wasnt true and eventually they told me the allegations were unfounded and they were closing case. im trying to show you a pattern here, there are more instances of this same behavior but i would be here at this computer untill next week, and i still have to goto work in the morning.
so you see my dillema hopefully. at this point i would like to say that I HAVE NEVER DONE ANYTHING TO MY DAUGHTER that could even possibly considered innapropriate. My view is that anyone who would or even has thoughts of doing something to there child or anyone elses for that matter needs to have there testicles cut off fed to them and then be administered syrup of epicac so they can be forced fed again. Then SHOT.
Of course im scared of what may come of this, but mostly im afraid for my daughter and what something like this will do to her. obviously if Brenda has led her to say these things isnt that some sort of abuse in its own right. isnt a child of 3.5 still very fragile and to play with her version of reality a disastor waiting to happen. for her to grow up thinking that yes, my dad do this to me, or even when she does get older and relizes that i didnt this but yet im convicted and spend god knows how much time in prison. eery day she would have to live with herself knowing that her mother put that seed there and she went along with it. the "game".
so that my story and again this all just happenned today. tommorrow is another day and hopefully i will find out more. i plan to keep you all posted on events as they happen. since i plan to represent my self because i cant afford an attorney and i dont quialify for a public defender, i will post copies of all documents i receive in regards top this case. hopefully there is someone out there that maybe able to help. maybe theres some ppl out there that just want to show they care, or perhaps i can raise some questions and awareness as to the unfairness of the custody battle. to all you fathers and mothers going thru the same thing as i am, hang in there, fight, dont give up, and God Bless You.
Time Is Running Out
Brandon
3 weeks ago i filed for custody of our daughter.i did this because the motherwe will say her name is Brenda, asked me to do it because she is only getting 50 dollars of the 160 a week i pay to child support. her reason for this is " why pay them 160 when im only getting 50, get joint custody so we can have your child support taken away and u just give it to me". so like a fool i agreed. our court date was scheduled for 7/25/07 (yesterday) @ 215pm. co i came home from visitting my mother at 11 am, to find the NYS police at my door. i invited them in and they said they wanted to discuss something with me. i agreed. they started asking me when, where, how often i have my daughter, does she stay over night, where does she sleep, does she bath on her own or does she require help...on and on. by now i already know where this is leading but cant cant quite fathom it. I mean what father who does nothing but love and cherise there child could. so finally they tell me exactly why they are here. it turns out Brenda filled a complaint with child prtective services on 7/23/07 (two days before our first appearance), claiming that i had "innapropriate contact" with our daughter. CPS then did then shuttled our daughter to an unknown location to "interview" her. at this point when the State Police left i hurried to be able to make the court appearance. when i got there our childs, law guardian was there and she asked me questions about the family court case. at this time i told her what just happened. as soon we got into the court she told the judge that BRENDA just told her about the alligations which was B.S. that part doesnt really matter but i feel you should get a feel for the type of ppl im dealing with. so natural the judge post poned everything untill the investigation is over. after court i raced to the office of the CPS. i met with the investigator at CPS who is handling this report. nice lady of about 21 or 22. come to find out she is the one that interviewed our daughter. with all do respect how much experiance could she really have in this type of situation? so we had a lengthy conversation that didnt really accomplish much and i was actually the one giving out more information and answering more questions from her even though i sought her out. any ways the most important thing i learned was that the interview with my daughter was not video taped, nor was it recorded. all that was done is she wrote out notes AFTER she did the interview.
In this day in age you are probably well aware of the research done on how kids of preschool age are so easily made or coerced or led (choose your word) to say, or admit or accuse most anything or anyone of anything. i spent the entire day searching the web for any information on this. I went to Yahoo search and typed in "leading questions child molestation" and got 247000 hits. the very first link i clicked on had me dumbfounded. Here is the link and you draw your own conclusion
http://www.deltabravo.net/custody/bridges1.php#Intro
i think at this point perhaps i should go into mine and Brendas relationship. obviously we are no longer together as of 2 yrs ago. she has since found another man to support her and had a child with him. any ways its been an on and off again friendship. from the way i see it when I have money were friends when i dont im the devil in her eyes. when i give her what she wants guess what were friends, when i dont give her what she wants guess what?...you guessed it. 4 mont5hs ago i tried to get custody of our daughter, unknown to her. what i didnt relize was that she got a copy of the petition. oh my God you should heard the telephone conversation we had...or i should say she had. Ive never heard such cussing and foul language before in life (and i spent 3 yrs in the navy). so any ways 2 days after the phone call i had Child protective services at my house, saying that they heard i didnt have any food in my house and that i had power tools everywhere , which wasnt true and eventually they told me the allegations were unfounded and they were closing case. im trying to show you a pattern here, there are more instances of this same behavior but i would be here at this computer untill next week, and i still have to goto work in the morning.
so you see my dillema hopefully. at this point i would like to say that I HAVE NEVER DONE ANYTHING TO MY DAUGHTER that could even possibly considered innapropriate. My view is that anyone who would or even has thoughts of doing something to there child or anyone elses for that matter needs to have there testicles cut off fed to them and then be administered syrup of epicac so they can be forced fed again. Then SHOT.
Of course im scared of what may come of this, but mostly im afraid for my daughter and what something like this will do to her. obviously if Brenda has led her to say these things isnt that some sort of abuse in its own right. isnt a child of 3.5 still very fragile and to play with her version of reality a disastor waiting to happen. for her to grow up thinking that yes, my dad do this to me, or even when she does get older and relizes that i didnt this but yet im convicted and spend god knows how much time in prison. eery day she would have to live with herself knowing that her mother put that seed there and she went along with it. the "game".
so that my story and again this all just happenned today. tommorrow is another day and hopefully i will find out more. i plan to keep you all posted on events as they happen. since i plan to represent my self because i cant afford an attorney and i dont quialify for a public defender, i will post copies of all documents i receive in regards top this case. hopefully there is someone out there that maybe able to help. maybe theres some ppl out there that just want to show they care, or perhaps i can raise some questions and awareness as to the unfairness of the custody battle. to all you fathers and mothers going thru the same thing as i am, hang in there, fight, dont give up, and God Bless You.
Time Is Running Out
Brandon