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Thank you for the help.  I did read those articles in detail. Wow! This is really a tough thing to deal with- especially being the one that really does not want it to happen.

This is my summary- forgive me if I mess up.  I feel like I was just hit by a truck!  I welcome your thoughts and prayers.  My wife of 19 years told me a week ago that she wants a divorce. She says she just does not love me anymore and are different people now.  We have two kids- 15 and 11.  Since about 2005 I have been a stay at home dad working part-time hours but some extended periods of no income.  I have been the primary caregiver to my two kids. I have been an excellent dad. We are keeping up appearances until school is out.  I have been asking for her to reconsider and to try to work things out or start fresh but she has decided it is over.

I REALLY do not know how this divorce thing happens.  I have a lot of learning to do.  I saw on one post to see articles and first aid kit but I have not found it yet.  My fear is that I will be the one forced out of the family and our house.  I feel down emotionally and career wise.  I worry when/if she gets a lawyer that his/her advise will push me down.  I worry wife will empty savings and leave me nothing to hire a lawyer with but if I pull money that will start a negative action on her part.  I can see us having pretty even custody but I believe (emotionally) we should sell the house we live in together. It is a symbol of what is going on- it needs a lot of repair. I don't believe the kids have a connection to this house but they do to the neighborhood.  Ok- I'm feeling the truck that ran over me and I'm rambling. 

Please let me know your thoughts and things I should and should not do to mess up my position.  I've started a diary of the things I'm doing to assist ours kids on a daily basis. I welcome all thoughts from moderators and users alike.
Sincerely,