This is my summary- forgive me if I mess up. I feel like I was just hit by a truck! I welcome your thoughts and prayers. My wife of 19 years told me a week ago that she wants a divorce. She says she just does not love me anymore and are different people now. We have two kids- 15 and 11. Since about 2005 I have been a stay at home dad working part-time hours but some extended periods of no income. I have been the primary caregiver to my two kids. I have been an excellent dad. We are keeping up appearances until school is out. I have been asking for her to reconsider and to try to work things out or start fresh but she has decided it is over.
I REALLY do not know how this divorce thing happens. I have a lot of learning to do. I saw on one post to see articles and first aid kit but I have not found it yet. My fear is that I will be the one forced out of the family and our house. I feel down emotionally and career wise. I worry when/if she gets a lawyer that his/her advise will push me down. I worry wife will empty savings and leave me nothing to hire a lawyer with but if I pull money that will start a negative action on her part. I can see us having pretty even custody but I believe (emotionally) we should sell the house we live in together. It is a symbol of what is going on- it needs a lot of repair. I don't believe the kids have a connection to this house but they do to the neighborhood. Ok- I'm feeling the truck that ran over me and I'm rambling.
Please let me know your thoughts and things I should and should not do to mess up my position. I've started a diary of the things I'm doing to assist ours kids on a daily basis. I welcome all thoughts from moderators and users alike.
Sincerely,
I REALLY do not know how this divorce thing happens. I have a lot of learning to do. I saw on one post to see articles and first aid kit but I have not found it yet. My fear is that I will be the one forced out of the family and our house. I feel down emotionally and career wise. I worry when/if she gets a lawyer that his/her advise will push me down. I worry wife will empty savings and leave me nothing to hire a lawyer with but if I pull money that will start a negative action on her part. I can see us having pretty even custody but I believe (emotionally) we should sell the house we live in together. It is a symbol of what is going on- it needs a lot of repair. I don't believe the kids have a connection to this house but they do to the neighborhood. Ok- I'm feeling the truck that ran over me and I'm rambling.
Please let me know your thoughts and things I should and should not do to mess up my position. I've started a diary of the things I'm doing to assist ours kids on a daily basis. I welcome all thoughts from moderators and users alike.
Sincerely,