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Hi Socrateaser,
   I've been doing some work since we last spoke.  Here's what I have so far.

   1.  Possible criminal exposure
   2.  Exposure to State Bar investigation/disciplinary action
   3.  Grounds for Contempt or Non-Compliance filing in Family Court

Follows are some details;

   1. Civil Court? - Criminal charges
       a.  I believe I have evidence to prove 3 separate counts of Fraud, 2
            counts of conspiracy, 1 count of extortion/coercion and 1 count of
            malice

   2.  State Bar - RPC Violations
        a.  Conflict of Interest
        b.  Contacting Opposing Party
        c.  Inducing to Violate
        d.  Advising to Violate

   3.  Family Court
        1.  Contempt might be proven upon conviction in Civil Court?  Big IF.
        2.  Non-compliance (school and therapist evidence is beginning to            
             pile up)


1.  I talked to the D.A.  They said "Call the Bar."

2.  I talked to the Police, they said go to Family Law and put it all in front
     of the judge that heard the initial case

3.  I talked to the Bar and they said "File a complaint, list only the RCP
     violations.  We don't do the fraud stuff."

4.  I haven't called CPS.  My experience is they're not very skilled.  It
     would escalate the mother no end.

5.  I haven't tried to find counsel that would do the fraud et al on
     contingency.  Is that even how it's done?

6.  1, non-ordered weekly visit (for homework) has been withdrawn, all
     ordered telephone calls (3 per week) have ceased, my calls are not
     returned, nor are my emails responded to.  She is forcing all
     communication to go through our son.  Which I try to keep to a
     minimun to spare him.


My question is what do you think I should do?  Should I start with Family, then to the Bar and hope either of them refer to the D.A.?

I don't have the money for strong legal counsel and I can't survive another bout of malicious prosecution.  

My son's grades have gone from A- to F in the last 4 months under his mother's management and he's shutting down and getting in trouble.  
 

Dear Socrateaser,
   How do I provide you with case facts without jeopardizing attorney/client et al?
Thanks.
Mike

Hello all,
   I was routed here through a site called Helen's World of BPD Resources.  I have been doing joint custody for seven years of a WONderful boy of 12.  His mother, however lacks a little of his wonderful-ness.

   I have recently discovered she suffers from (I've always known she suffered...) Borderline Personality Disorder.  When we met 15 years ago, it was in full bloom already.  It just took about 3 months to start to scream through what turned out to be rapidly expanding cracks in her self-control.

   I moved out 8 years ago.  Because we didn't marry, I had no custody or visitation rights.  Within three years, I had to go to court to get them established.  From the way she reacted, you'd think I was trying to get custody of her Eternal Salvation.  

   False allegations of sexual abuse of our son, allegations of wife beating and an astounding parade of bad behavior on both her and her attorneys part.  They forged documents to submit to court, lied when it would have benefited them to tell the truth.

   All said and done, we got joint legal, physical with mother and reasonable visitation with regular phone calls.  But mother has unilateral decision-making re: school and health.  And she's taken it to mean she does whatever she wants, whenever and why-ever.  With impunity.

   But nothing has been regular since.  They also ruined my reputation by whispering the allegations everywhere, including to my clients.  Ruined my company and broke the bank.  (Attorney loved to threaten my attorney with actions and sanctions until he finally quit.)

   It's always been bad but in the last year, it's gotten worse.  (I'm on disability and a limited, fixed income, otherwise, I'd have gone back to court for non-compliance reasons.

   But now, she's been deteriorating over the last 8 months.  She's withdrawn expanded visitation, calls aren't being made, son's grades plummeted when she took over and he's about to lose out on academic enrichment program standing and I'm tired of the pain.

   I'll stop now and post this.
   Hello all.  I'm glad I found this site and wish I'd found it sooner.  I haven't looked around alot yet but I will.  Anybody like to point me in any particular direction?
Mike