Hi. i live in PA. i am an ncp & my ex & son live in FL. As i was about to terminate support due to my son turning 18 recently, my ex petitioned for continuance of cs stating that my son has developed adhd. i was never aware of this prior, & my ex had cut off contact years ago w/my son - she even changed my sons name w/o my knowledge.
despite years of her violating the custody order, i may see him once a year for limited time at most. ex had also tried extending support w/my previous kids while in high school but lost
At the hearing here in PA, my ex phoned in from FL. she was not prepared nor had any documents faxed to the hearing. however, she was granted 2 extra weeks to come up w/data. this data was not revealed to me & the officer ruled in her favor.
info from school & police that i have recently received is restricted. this alternative "school" shows many discrepancies re add/adhd notes & has him in on the job training, w/little focus on academics, allows him independent study towards a ged; my son works close to full time & earns wages. the school keeps referring to this as 'special' diploma & much talk of 'iep's'. i don't know if he's classified as disabled, impaired, or what and the goals listed are non-educational & they project graduation in 4 yrs.
info reveals some notes from physican about adhd & about being on and off ritalin years due to refusal of mom to purchase it consistently.
info reveals that my ex is working while she is collecting SSD.
also, for what its worth, my son was conceived during my ex's affair . after we separated/divorced she had boasted that i was paying for someone else's son. for yrs attorneys advised me against disputing it & testing him saying it would get me nowhere but more in debt.
meantime, my savings for my current toddler's schooling will be depleted to support an adult. my adult son has been in constant trouble w/the police in his area & has always had a troubled life w/his mom.
lastly, my wages have been garnished for the most recent decision. however, at a recent closing, the proceeds were again tagged by the state for a duplicate garnishment. the local dr office says basically too bad.
I have appealed & am awaiting date for denovo hearing but attorney doesnt seem confident -am desperate for good atty.
again, this is in PA... could would you advise me on any issue here
1- what are my rights to paternity fraud testing at this stage & what do you think of pursuing it ?
2- what can be done about my ex working while collecting SSD?
3- how do i find out the legitimacy of this school or this alternative program which doesn't focus on academics ?
4 how do i cross examine these claims by this doctor re:adhd? my atty says the doctor may not even have to appear nor does my ex.
5- how do i disprove that my son is not disabled by this suddent development of add/adhd if he's earning wages?
6- can you recommend how i can recover the cs money deducted in error from my proceeds at my closing ?
7- what questions can i ask an attorney to discern their ability?
thanks
despite years of her violating the custody order, i may see him once a year for limited time at most. ex had also tried extending support w/my previous kids while in high school but lost
At the hearing here in PA, my ex phoned in from FL. she was not prepared nor had any documents faxed to the hearing. however, she was granted 2 extra weeks to come up w/data. this data was not revealed to me & the officer ruled in her favor.
info from school & police that i have recently received is restricted. this alternative "school" shows many discrepancies re add/adhd notes & has him in on the job training, w/little focus on academics, allows him independent study towards a ged; my son works close to full time & earns wages. the school keeps referring to this as 'special' diploma & much talk of 'iep's'. i don't know if he's classified as disabled, impaired, or what and the goals listed are non-educational & they project graduation in 4 yrs.
info reveals some notes from physican about adhd & about being on and off ritalin years due to refusal of mom to purchase it consistently.
info reveals that my ex is working while she is collecting SSD.
also, for what its worth, my son was conceived during my ex's affair . after we separated/divorced she had boasted that i was paying for someone else's son. for yrs attorneys advised me against disputing it & testing him saying it would get me nowhere but more in debt.
meantime, my savings for my current toddler's schooling will be depleted to support an adult. my adult son has been in constant trouble w/the police in his area & has always had a troubled life w/his mom.
lastly, my wages have been garnished for the most recent decision. however, at a recent closing, the proceeds were again tagged by the state for a duplicate garnishment. the local dr office says basically too bad.
I have appealed & am awaiting date for denovo hearing but attorney doesnt seem confident -am desperate for good atty.
again, this is in PA... could would you advise me on any issue here
1- what are my rights to paternity fraud testing at this stage & what do you think of pursuing it ?
2- what can be done about my ex working while collecting SSD?
3- how do i find out the legitimacy of this school or this alternative program which doesn't focus on academics ?
4 how do i cross examine these claims by this doctor re:adhd? my atty says the doctor may not even have to appear nor does my ex.
5- how do i disprove that my son is not disabled by this suddent development of add/adhd if he's earning wages?
6- can you recommend how i can recover the cs money deducted in error from my proceeds at my closing ?
7- what questions can i ask an attorney to discern their ability?
thanks