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We are updating the CO AGAIN.  We want to try and add a morality clause.  BM has had many many live in boyfriends and we feel it's starting to affect the kids.

We don't want any unmarried men living with BM.  But how do we state it so it's enforceable?  How do we define 'living'?  And we don't want it so broad that it includes family and family friends visiting.  

Am I overthinking this?!?

In our state it's standard to say:
All parties are restrained from having the child/children on an overnight basis in the presence of an adult party of the opposite sex (*or the same sex if the party or guest is bi-sexual or homosexual) to whom the parties are not related by blood or marriage, or any lover/paramour.  

good luck -- pick and choose your battles.

Be prepared to show HOW this is negatively affecting the kids through professional witnesses.

We're not going to court requesting the changes, after DH and BM agree and sign, DH submitts them to the courts.  This is how we changed the CO last time.  We just have to catch BM in the right mood.

Even so, this is a battle we'd choose to fight.  

Thanks.

Before you make a demand like that, make absolutely sure that you haven't done the same thing?  Did you and your husband live together when the children visited before you were married?

If you did, you're going to look pretty hypocritical, and if you take this to court, the judge will likely deny it AND make you pay attorney's fees.