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So, you are saying that all I need to do is send the form and write REFUSED, along with the pages from the decree and I'll be fine????  My tax appt. is tomorrow, so I was starting to panic.  Should I send a copy of the child support payment record showing my payments for the year?

Actually, we will be doing quick refund, so I won't send the papers in anyway, but I know my accountant will ask for the form.

Thanks for the reply!

My ex is dragging her feet on completing this form for me.  We had negotiations 1 1/2 weeks ago and I gave her the form in front of both of our lawyers, along with a child support printout.  (the printout doesn't show the total amount for the year, but showed consistent payments) Her lawyer advised her to contact CSRU asap to confirm I was current, and get the form back to me, which she is stalling on.

Does this form have the same rule as w-2's, where they have to be mailed by the 31st of this month?

My lawyer submitted a set of interrogatories to my ex.  They were due in December.  My lawyer received them about 2 weeks after the due date.  I received the copies last week.

The interrogatories are not signed.  Her lawyer attached a letter stating he would try to obtain my ex's signature and submit it when he has it.  She also did not sign the financial affidavit.

While reading the interrogatories, I found many 'misrepresentations' or outright lies.  She also did not attach any of the documentation that was requested.

We have negotiations in a few weeks.  Some of the lies I can prove, some of them I cannot.  

Now what do I do?  What is the next step?

I am in the process of modifying my current decree so I can get more time with my son.  We go to court in January.  The biggest issues are that I want the whole summer minus 2 weeks, shared school breaks, shared transportation, holiday weekends rather than days and basic accountability and fairness to both parties.

What type of interrogatories and information or documentation should I be requesting?  They need to be mailed in the next week or so to be able to make deadlines.  What would be the 'norm' for this type of case?

Also, I want my lawyer to have my ex prove child support accountability. (I know, big dreams!)  Anyway, she is not too keen on the idea because she thinks my $$ can be better spent on other things.  She also thinks a child support abatement in the summer is a bad idea because the CS office WILL screw it up, according to her.

Any ideas or advice would be greatly appreciated!  I've ordered a couple books, but am awaiting arrival!

IM

On Monday I will be meeting with my son's counselor for the 1st time.  He has only seen her a couple of times so far and goes every other week.  

My ex claims that my son talks to the counselor about this or that, and usually points the finger at me, with the typical ex crap.  If she wants to prove a point she claims she talked to the counselor and then pulls the 'this is what they said so this is what we should do' crap, etc.  This week she claimed my son was upset about something and discussed it with his counselor.  I talked to the counselor last night and it was an outright lie.  My son doesn't even have an appt. until next week.  
(But my ex called to talk to her about it)

I want to expose my ex-wife for what she is doing and how she is trying to manipulate the counselor.  I'm sure she is trying to build a case against me as being a bad father before we go to court in a couple months.  

How do I approach the counselor in a 'professional' way without giving the impression I am doing the same thing she is.  I want her to be 'outed' so she can stop trying to manipulate the situation.

I tried to put my son in counseling where I live but I can't find one that will take Saturday appts.

Does anyone have suggestions for specific questions I should ask the counselor?  I want to be prepared when I go in on Monday.

Thank You

I followed your link and went to this site.  I could only find 2 posts.  Did I miss something?

Well we went to court on the contempt issues and for change of venue.  The contempt issues were dismissed and venue is back in the original county.  She has to pay to have venue transferred back.  The only thing we didn't get was attornies fees and costs, but we'll take the small victory!

My ex is on a power trip and filed a petition to modify in her county of residence, even though we already have an ongoing case in the original county of the decree.  She did not follow court rules as far as telling them a case was pending in another county, etc.  

Three weeks later she filed contempt against me for not filing a paper with the court (which is sitting in the court file of the original court and has been for about 9 months) and for not returning my son at the designated time after a weekend visitation.

Some of you may remember my ex was threatening an Amber Alert if I didn't return my son after a weekend visitaion.  (she refused to meet at the spot we had used for a year).  Our court order does not address transportation issues, so I can't be in contempt of something not addressed in our divorce decree.

I was served on Tuesday with the papers for contempt.  Problem was the Affidavit to start Contempt was not included so my lawyer had to go to the courthouse and look in the file to find out what the contempt was for.  (the courthouse is 4 hours from me)

So now I am collecting evidence.  I am taking the police reports from the day she threatened the Amber Alert, the paper she claims was not filed with the court and a letter signed by her stating she is now willing to meet 1/2 way.  (the letter is dated the day after she filed contempt)  

I have hired someone to transcribe phone recordings for me.  The recordings include her 2 threats of the Amber Alert and messages and conversations about the weekend in question.  Is there anything I need to add to the transcriptions in order to submit them as evidence?  (Do they need to be notarized, for example?)

Thanks

Ok, here's the background:

My ex and I live about 4 hours apart in different states.  We have a 7 year old son and are both remarried.  We were in the process of modifying our original decree, but there have been several changes that are affecting where we go next.

1.  I fired my lawyer 2 weeks ago.  He was completely incompetent and did not follow through on filing motions, etc.  I have requested my complete file from him, but only received info I sent him and copies of 2 motions that were filed with the court.  He did not include any notes, correspondence, other motions, etc.  So I am sending him another letter to request that info.  

I now need to retain a new lawyer, but have to save the retainer fee before I can do so.  Is there a specific time frame I need to follow in retaining new counsel in Iowa?

2.  I have changed careers.  After 2 years of being in and out of unemployment I have completed an educational course and obtained secure employment.  The only downfall to that is I will now be away from home for about 1 1/2 weeks at a time, which definitely affects my visitation with my son.  And, yes, I did consider that before choosing my new career... but I need stable income in order to support my son and my current family... it's a double-edged sword, but I will only need to travel extensively for the 1st year of my employment and then I will be able to be home more.

So, now, I don't know where to go next with the modification.  Do I continue with it now?  

3.  The reason for the mod is that the original was done when my son was an infant and me and my ex lived within 1/2 hour of each other.   Since the original decree my ex and I have both moved, in opposite directions of each other.  The travel distance has changed things, especially with pick-up and drop-off and holidays.

4.  To be fair, my ex and I do seem to work things out ok.... but usually only as long as it benefits her.   Things have been ok for the past 6 months since I retained a lawyer.  But, now that I fired Mr. Incompetent, she has already started playing games with traveling, etc.

5.  My last question is this.... I currently have my son EOW.  If I am not available on the weekend, can my wife (my son's step-mom) exercise the visitation?  Or can my ex deny that?  I plan to offer some of the weekends to my parents, but I don't think that will be a problem with my ex because she gets along well with them.

Sorry for the long post.  I just really need some direction and advice as to how to proceed.

Thank You,
Ice Mountain

Do a search for your state under '(state) circuit court' access.  Many states have this information available.  Even if you can't find info on the felony, you will find other useful information.  Good Luck!