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I'm not going to even touch the alienation issues. Been there done that, have the T-shirt  :-(

But as for gifts...buy her savings bonds! They are sold here with a gift card. Have the bonds sent to your own address, and if you like, put your name on them as a secondary holder. Keep them for her in the envelope they come in, showing the postmark date.

She may not appreciate it now, but when the time comes...and yes, the time will come...she'll know and understand  ;-)

No, I haven't yet. I was waiting for a response from Soc.

Another perfect example, tonite my girl wanted to come work on a health project that we've been working on for several weeks. WOW, surprise, he agreed to drop her off on the way to my son's boyscout meeting up the street. But...he refused to pick her up on their way home.  LOL

I have no control over when my daughter asks her dad to do things in that house.  Maybe because it's an every Sunday night occurance? I know that I always have plenty of notice for events that she wishes to attend while with me.

I live in town. I have to be to work at 11 at night. He lives on the outside of town, on a road that is not maintained. I'm sorry, but making me the heavy on whether or not she gets to go to a dance because he wants to be an idiot is not a game I'm going to play.

Yes, she went and yes, I picked her up. And yes, I was almost late for work. And yes, he was too dayum lazy to get up and acknowledge her arrival home or wish her goodnite.

I never have a clue what that man is going to do.

Yes, he does some really idiotic things. Like when it was still joint custody, he repeatedly brought my girl home days early week after week, and then pressed contempt charges on me! (Yes, he was laughed out of court.)

Then last Christmas, he showed up at my home 2 days early to take the kids, and then called the police on me! (Yes, they told him to go on home.)

So I have to keep on my toes and stay one step ahead.

Lets see...I should go out at 10 at night to pick up a child from an activity so dad can sleep...but...I am not allowed to pick up my son from school on my visitation days so it "doesn't disrupt his schedule", and lose an hour and a half of visitation? Don't you think this is all just a little bit BS?

There was no question.

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So...I go pick her up and he has me arrested for what...kidnapping? Who knows?

That's my X for ya. I drafted a letter to him tonite:

This is to advise you that if in the future I should be required to pick up the children from activities during your periods of custody, I must have a personal request from you prior to the occasion.

Should I not have a request from you, I will deliver the children to my home and contact the proper authorities.

How's that for letting him shirk his duties?

Right.......THIS TIME!!!

I told her this would not be a habit, and she understands that.

HE wanted custody, then why shouldn't he get to do all the goodies that I did for the last 5 years all by myself?


Nope, it's not my weekend.

Daughter says:
i am scared to ask dad if i can go to the dance..

Daughter says:
i will try to wait until step-mom is not around mwahah

Daughter says:
i think i will just ask now neways .. ughhh wish me luck brb

Terri says:
if i do go like if they dont cancel it will you give me a ride home?

I say:
tonite?

Daughter says:
yeah

I say:
won't they?

Daughter says:
i dont know.. he said he would take me..... but i dont know about picking me up.. (he said it depends on the weeeeeeeeeeatttthhher

I say:
oh good gawd, he has 4w drive

Daughter says:
he said you have to share a little too

Am I a fruitcake?
(NOTE: This convo copy and pasted with names omitted.)

At 4:00 my phone started ringing....no message left on my answering machine, but the calls were coming from my kids. About 10 calls on my caller ID. ( I wasn't concerned as I am due to pick them up at 5:00, and they didn't leave a message. I expect they want me to come pick them up early as usual.) I arrive home from getting groceries at about 4:15 and the phone rings yet again.

It's my son asking me where I have been?!?! I got out of work at 3, and went and got groceries. My son gets on the phone, and I'm told, "Well you didn't tell us you were getting groceries!!!" I'm totally scratching my head at this point as to why he is so frantic.

He informs me that he has a birthday party to attend at 4:30 at a roller skating rink 10 miles away. As IRATE as I was at hearing this, I calmly told him to have his father take him and I would pick him up. His answer was no, I had to take him. I informed him that I had a car load of groceries and that I had to get them put away, so he needed to have his dad take him and I would pick him up.

He asked his dad, and you could hear dad in the background saying, "I can't do that. She will have to take you." (I hope like hell this came out on tape.) I said son, if you knew you had a party  to attend then I should have known a lot sooner. Your dad should have called and informed me of this information (ARRRGH MY SON JUST CALLED AGAIN). So if he will take you, I will pick you up. "

My son informed me his dad had not bought a present for the child. Oh, like I can do that and get him to a party ten miles away in half an hour!

Sorry, I have to go pick up my kids now. My weekend with them is going to be hell.

This is exactly why I am considering accepting a promotion/transfer 150 miles away.  :-(

I'm not going to even touch the alienation issues. Been there done that, have the T-shirt  :-(

But as for gifts...buy her savings bonds! They are sold here with a gift card. Have the bonds sent to your own address, and if you like, put your name on them as a secondary holder. Keep them for her in the envelope they come in, showing the postmark date.

She may not appreciate it now, but when the time comes...and yes, the time will come...she'll know and understand  ;-)

No, I haven't yet. I was waiting for a response from Soc.

Another perfect example, tonite my girl wanted to come work on a health project that we've been working on for several weeks. WOW, surprise, he agreed to drop her off on the way to my son's boyscout meeting up the street. But...he refused to pick her up on their way home.  LOL