The judge did nothing but say that the cousin could not be around my child. He did not even touch the issue of my daughter being left alone with her mother and the gmother telling her not to tell.
He is sending us to a court ordered parental coordinator who will come up with the final order (another new program in Texas so be ware!). We are giving up. We have tried for numerous years to make this work and it is not. We have tried to work with the other side, but even through all us this, my daughter still tells everyone she can that she wants to live with her mother and grandparents and hated us. So we are giving her her wish. She can go live there and turn out like them. I can not prevent it from happening. She gets to choose in a couple of years to go live there anyways.
I know you will think that I am crazy.....but I spoke with her therapist this morning and she said that we can not undue the damage that this child has had from the other side and the situation is only going to escalate based on the last years of patterning and the fact that the child does not want to change. The daughter does not want to be with us and is going to do everything in her power to damage my family until she gets what she wants....to live there agian. I can honestly say I have given it 100% my all to protect her, but have not done my all to protect my other children in my home that she is hurting through all her problems that she is bringing from there house and acting out on them.
I want to thank eveyone for always helping me and I know that I am making someone mad out there because I have what they want...but I can no longer do it at the expense of my family. I am losing others just for her and I have to make a decision. I do believe I am making my decision based on that it is in her best interest to make her happy, but I do fear that she will be emotionally and physically scarred for life no matter if she lives with me or her other family. I can not longer battle this war.
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He is sending us to a court ordered parental coordinator who will come up with the final order (another new program in Texas so be ware!). We are giving up. We have tried for numerous years to make this work and it is not. We have tried to work with the other side, but even through all us this, my daughter still tells everyone she can that she wants to live with her mother and grandparents and hated us. So we are giving her her wish. She can go live there and turn out like them. I can not prevent it from happening. She gets to choose in a couple of years to go live there anyways.
I know you will think that I am crazy.....but I spoke with her therapist this morning and she said that we can not undue the damage that this child has had from the other side and the situation is only going to escalate based on the last years of patterning and the fact that the child does not want to change. The daughter does not want to be with us and is going to do everything in her power to damage my family until she gets what she wants....to live there agian. I can honestly say I have given it 100% my all to protect her, but have not done my all to protect my other children in my home that she is hurting through all her problems that she is bringing from there house and acting out on them.
I want to thank eveyone for always helping me and I know that I am making someone mad out there because I have what they want...but I can no longer do it at the expense of my family. I am losing others just for her and I have to make a decision. I do believe I am making my decision based on that it is in her best interest to make her happy, but I do fear that she will be emotionally and physically scarred for life no matter if she lives with me or her other family. I can not longer battle this war.
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