I am looking for some creative ways to add certain holiday criteria to a CO.
With shared parenting and a week on week off schedule it can make for difficult Christmas negotiations. I had proposed to DD that on the years I will have our child for Christmas day that we be allowed to travel out of state as I am remarried(9 years) and have 4 other children who have gp's out of town in louisiana and pa. He said that he wouldnt' agree and have that in stone because he could have the potential to not have our child for at least christmas eve every other year. Understandable, but then he proceeds to say that we need to stick to the week on week off schedule and I should only go out of town when child is on my week. I will not have child on my week for the next 5 or 6 years based on a rotating schedule like this which means we can't go out of town to spend christmas with family. Does anyone have anything creative we can add. We don't go out of town that often really, it's expensive, the last time we were in Louisiana was 2004 so that tells you but in the past there has been major arguements for us to spend time with stepdads side of the family. We now live 4 hours away from my husband other side of the family so thats easier to get to and we wouldn't need christmas eve but to go to louisiana we would. I just want to be able to have the option at some point. Trying to negotiate with dd always ends up in an arguement especially when I am the one asking.
Just today he mentioned that he's used to not having her, he hasn't had her in two years. Which I am confused on, we've nearly shared time 50/50 and even years are mine for holidays but he had her Easter and Thanksgiving last year, so I am confused on what he is feeling......
With shared parenting and a week on week off schedule it can make for difficult Christmas negotiations. I had proposed to DD that on the years I will have our child for Christmas day that we be allowed to travel out of state as I am remarried(9 years) and have 4 other children who have gp's out of town in louisiana and pa. He said that he wouldnt' agree and have that in stone because he could have the potential to not have our child for at least christmas eve every other year. Understandable, but then he proceeds to say that we need to stick to the week on week off schedule and I should only go out of town when child is on my week. I will not have child on my week for the next 5 or 6 years based on a rotating schedule like this which means we can't go out of town to spend christmas with family. Does anyone have anything creative we can add. We don't go out of town that often really, it's expensive, the last time we were in Louisiana was 2004 so that tells you but in the past there has been major arguements for us to spend time with stepdads side of the family. We now live 4 hours away from my husband other side of the family so thats easier to get to and we wouldn't need christmas eve but to go to louisiana we would. I just want to be able to have the option at some point. Trying to negotiate with dd always ends up in an arguement especially when I am the one asking.
Just today he mentioned that he's used to not having her, he hasn't had her in two years. Which I am confused on, we've nearly shared time 50/50 and even years are mine for holidays but he had her Easter and Thanksgiving last year, so I am confused on what he is feeling......