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It sounds like you are in a VERY tough situation. What do you think your daughter wants to do?

I think he's saying stay put, or all bets are off.

This is my highly not legal position- but the way you are talking is already working against you...have your wife"let" your daughter be with you the first week- why can't your daughter come and live at your new house with you and then you can "let" her visit with her mom from there. As Soc said- it's all about establishing the staus quo...

Not a legal answer- but we had this same thing come up this year for my SD's school. My husband is the "residential parent for school purposes" and the student services lady said that dad has to sign all forms, because he enrolled her and he lives in the district. Mom is sort of a NCP in their eyes. NOW- I don't know how true that is in the real legal world- but that's what the school told us!

BTW- BM was trying to pull the same crap in our case...didn't work.

Fascinating that child support "can't" be given to a child- when it is to be used for the benefit of the child. I figured it wasn't possible- that would make way, way too much sense...and if there is one thing we've learned in family law...

Just a thought- but maybe when your child turns 18, they will just give it to him? Perhaps he should look into getting it- since it is to support him- she is, in a sense "injuring" him by not accessing his support monies and using them for his well being. Have you asked her why she isn't taking the money?

I guess what I don't understand is:
When I withdrew the money, I assumed the 30 waiting period was so that they could determine how much of it was going to go to child support. They took the entire month and then sent me the entire amount.

In the standard child support papers that are sent to my employer it states that they are liable for any monies that they should have paid to the CSEA on my behalf, but didn't. I guess I thought this was the same thing. It was the States duty to check on any child support, judgements or garnishments of any kind prior to sending me a lump sum and they failed to do so.

I kind of figured I was screwed if it came to battling the state- but I thought I might ask anyway.

Thanks

OHIO

I worked for the State of Ohio for 5 years in the early 90's. I resigned and went back to get my Master's degree (also worked to pay my CS while doing this). During this time I decided to withdraw my retirement to live on.

I put in for the money- they held it for appx. 30 days and then sent it to me. No child support was taken out.

2-3 years later, during a review of my older child's CS, the CSEA found out that I had been paid this money. They went after the State of Ohio to pay them the money that was owed on arrears at the time I withdrew it.

The State paid both CS cases all of the arrears owed on their cases at the time that I withdrew the money.

Fast forwad to today. An attorney's office for the State calls and states that I now owe them $3400 (money paid plus interest)- because they paid this money to the CSEA.

NOTE: Both CS orders are in the State of Ohio and were active and being paid by my employment at that time- no question they existed.

1. Does this not fall under the "if you didn't pay it when you had plenty of time to find the Orders during the 30 waiting period- then you are liable" clause? (just like if your employer doesn't send the money when they know they are supposed to)

2. If the CSEA felt that I was in the wrong, wouldn't they have come after ME in the first place and not the State?

If only. Seriously doubting he will answer a simple phone call or letter, would take an act of God- or the law to compel him to do anything.

Sigh- this is a post for a "whoa is me board"- not this one. I guess if there are NCP's  still reading this post, remember that your information will always be valuable to your children, no matter how much you dislike the other parent...don't punish the children.

Sure- and thanks for the info. I think those were all things I knew, I just had to hear it from you.

 I don't blame him, I just want to know the other pieces of this puzzle. I understand, I woulnd't want someone invading my private medical records for just anything, but I also wouldn't withold anything I thought could help my child.

Perhaps I should just sue him for half of my college education ( or 1/2 of what I owe in student loans)- perhaps he'd settle and give me the information I wanted! Ha! Just joking on that one, of course.

I am undergoing medical treatment for what may or may not be MS. My father has not been a part of my life since I was about 15 years old ( I am 28). I am concerned that there are some things in his medical history that I need to know, or that may be of some value to me, on top of the fact that it is mortifying to tell my doctor "I don't know", when asked about my paternal family.

I know that I can find out where he lives and how to get in touch with him, but I have the following questions:

1. Do adult children have any rights to their parents medical records?    (limited of course to whatever questions my physician has).

2. Can an adult "sue" another adult to compel them to release this information- if they are their biological child and have a VERY good reason to want to know?