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Ex has visitation for whole month of July while I have two consecutive weekends, I am CP, he wants to LET ME have them all weekdays of July and he only EVERY weekend. My kids are 9yr and 4 yrs they have not spent more than one-two nights at any given time apart from me. To me as well to them this is gonna be HARD if not devastating. (one point)

Now, NCP is still not current on CS and reason for divorce was insupportability. Will I be enableing him if I allow him not to have the responsibility of feeding and clothing and providing daycare for them during that Month, and he will have the parenting responsibility too.

My heart says "Give me my Babies!" my brain says "It's your turn!"

I am torn, divorce decree states month of July with him.

He has called Sherriff on me several times, I am also "1st Communion Girl" for those of you that remember.

GOD BLESS!

I totally agree that this is within itself a "visitation issue"

Part of the reason I joined this website was because of the openness that I could express my frustrations in dealing with my X, no matter the topic. I am grateful for the advice given to me and the support that you all give unconditionally.

Part of the problems I have with my ex are many but the one close to home now is her first communion at age 9, I have nine more years to go....

Part of being a Catholic and a CP, above all this a MOTHER; is that we have to respect our children. My daughter wants, craves, desires to attend and practice her faith, I am amazed that after 13 yrs of marriage, and sporatic church attendance she has thrived in her new environment filled with love in Chirst.

Thanks again for your support and words of wisdom.

God Bless, sabor

We will see I am tired of him calling all the shots, and malipulating me into submission, which was the running theme all my marriage.

He is intimidating and scary.

I will give him "make up time" on June 1st, since he has the kids that weekend I will tell him come by and pick them up at 3 instead of 6pm. I will be prepared with letters from my childs counselor from school and from the Sister at the Church. So if anything materializes, which he is found of calling the sherrif, I will have some evidence of the trama and hoops I have had to do to get this man to do
"in the best interest of the child"

I have made arrangements for my baby to do her first communion with a whole other group, that by the way chose not to have an after party, and she doesn't know it yet but will not be able to attend her class reunion party after mass, the day of 1st communion. And she will be with strangers that day. Overall, I think it is MORE important she get her sacraments, but you know kids...

True, but not for 1st time 1st Communions they only have two confession dates the Friday before father's day and the 1st of June, which is a Thurs.


Another topic, he never returns my calls and I have to be talking to his voice mail on topics such as illnesses, accidents, report cards, clothing left at his home, toys left at his home, etc.

Which is really frustrating to me "A type" personality. Quick resolution.

I was thinking on sending return receipt mail to him informing him of all above topics with I tried to reach you DATE/TIME.... etc...


Watcha think? I hate to think he can't get over his bitterness to have a civilized discussion about the kids. period.

No true there are no other days only one for her class my priest is going to make an EXCEPTION and put in with the older group of kids. But her confession will still be an Issue due to it being on Thursday when it is his scheduled time with them too.

I spoke to the father of my church and he said GOD is grand and finds ways of helping those who really make an effort to worship in his light. There is anohter group 4, 5 & 6 graders graduating the following weekend and my baby girl can be in that group. Also the confession on friday at 6 has been moved to June 1 on a Thursday when I have them. so over all life is grand and god is good.

I did ask he sarcastically said NO!

Non-Custodial father does not want my daughter to attend Saturday preparation classes when he has them. Our divorce decree does not state he has to take them ok... but now her first communion falls on Father's day weekend.

When we divorced we alternated weekends we did not go by Divorce Decree, now he wants to go by Decree every 1st & 3rd weekend. My daughter does her first communion on June 17th, which I would have had them that weekend, but since it is Father's Day weekend he would have them 3 weekends in a row, now he wants to do 1st & 3rd which puts us back to he having them that weekend. My daughter (9) wants to do her 1st communion, in our family it is a BIG thing, he has never gone to church in the 12 yrs we were married, I was not married by church to him, which was one of our issues between us. He is rude and beligerent in regards to having her attend services. Any advice?

 

It is my understanding if you move away you are responsible for the costs of travel for the child. My understanding is that you only get them for 45 straight days in the summer. Every other holiday is ok as I see it , the cost is yours to take and summer is too long for all 3 months, no way. rethink and ask for something reasonable

Non-Custodial father does not want my daughter to attend Saturday preparation classes when he has them. When we divorced we alternated weekends we did not go by Divorce Decree, now he wants to go by Decree every 1st & 3rd weekend. My daughter does her first communion on June 17th, which I would have had them that weekend, but since it is Father's Day weekend he would have them 3 weekends in a row, now he wants to do 1st & 3rd which puts us back to he having them that weekend. My daughter wants to do her 1st communion, in our family it is a BIG thing, he has never gone to church in the 12 yrs we were married, I was not married by church to him, which was one of our issues between us. He is rude and beligerent in regards to having her attend services. Any advice?