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No the 1st time she was busted  for shoplifting was a few years ago, I believed her when she said that she forgot she had put the items on one of the kids and left the stor forgetting the child had the item still.

The 2nd time was just before we got the divorce, and is when I discovered her afar. I didn't believe she would ever do it again because it was very embarrassing for us all.

I let her have main custody because she has always been better with helping the kids with their school work than I have, and with my job and being on 3rd shift couldn't be with the kids during the day hours much.

I believed at the time that it would be better for the kids to be with her mainly and for me to have the on my days off.

The 3rd time she got busted for shoplifting , it was just her the kids were in school, I talked to a lawyer and was told that scents the last two arrest were before the divorce and the kids weren't with here , that a judge most likely wouldn't change custody.  The event at Sears did involve my 11 year old son, but sears didn't press charges because they believed the mother had him do it, their for in court it would just be my or sears opinion of what was happening.

I do want my kids but she has to be arrested 1 more time in this state shoplifting or another time doing it with the kids before I can get them because of that.

Meanwhile she is now in the Catholic Church witch is telling her it isn't good for the kids to spend weekends with me because im in an immoral relationship with a woman, because we live together and are not marred.

I can't even tell them to ask her about the immorality of steeling are getting the kids to because IV gotten a letter from the lawyer saying I can't let them know about that.

I'm in the process of saving money for legal fees but after giving her 40% of my bring home pay for child support, and paying bills. I think theirs more money in the couch cushions than in my bank account.

Me and my ex-wife met in new Orleans about 10 years ago and she had a 2 year old girl, Me and her moved in with one another and got marred a year latter she got arrested for shoplifting and placing the goods on my step daughter, She told me that it was a mistake and I believed her.

We moved to Arkansas and a few years latter she was maxing out credit card that I didn't even know she had gotten in my name, as the bills piled up I got more and more distant from here until 2 years ago she was busted for shoplifting again and I discovered she was also having an affair.

Anyway , I had divorce papers delivered to her within a week, I thought she would be finished with shoplifting and decided to let her have main custody of our two children because I didn't wont to split them from their half sister and my ex-wife was better at helping them with their school work.

After the divorce she was arrested 2 more times for shoplifting in the last year, and has the kids on welfare insurance refusing to use the insurance I have, (Note)= I don't think she could of got that welfare insurance if the state know the kids were already on insurance))

Now to whets wrong now,
I met a girl that I like and had her move in with me, she is very nice and has a clean background, and I get my kids every other weekend and wish I had them more often. I also like this girl very much but don't want to be forced to get marred just so my kids can keep visiting, I'm thinking that I may have to take it to court but im not sure how the court will look at it.

On one hand theirs me= I'm a police officer and have been at the same address sints the divorce and at the same job, but have a girlfriend who lives with me.

On the other hand, theirs my ex-wife= she's had 3 different address in 2 years being evicted out of two places. has moved the kids school 4 times  in 2 years and is on her 3rd different job, as well as being arrested 2 times for shoplifting and her and my son are not allowed in sears at the mall, sears told me that they got my son with a stolen backpack and 4 DVD's but they didn't press charges because after talking to him and her they believed that my ex-wife had given him the stolen stuff and sent him out of the stor.

I want to have my own life without my ex-wife getting involved
I want to keep the visitation with my kids and I want to be able to have my new girlfriend live with me with out someone trying to force me into a marriage.