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Part of my CO visitation includes:

"After school on Wednesdays until 8 PM."

What about during the summer, when there is no school?  It seems simple enough, but when you have a PBFH like mine....you have to think ahead  :(

(Maybe I need to add at this point, my son is currently made to ride the school bus TO DAYCARE, where he is picked up and then delivered to my home, instead of being allowed to ride the bus to my home, which would be NO problem to arrange.)

Yes, I'm fully aware mr. dad is doing this on purpose. After my talk with my kids this weekend about "what were we going to do?" I explained to them that from now on, if I don't know about something enough in advance, it might look like I'm being mean but I'm going to keep my original plans.

You're exactly right. I had no issue with the fact that the Derby was on my weekend. But dad knew about it for months. I had the kids for 5 years. I always obtained extra ball game rosters for dad. He was always informed of concerts, and school activities.  Silly silly me for expecting the same in return.  :(

Ah...here I am posting in haste again because we rented a movie and have popcorn to make....

But, while it sounds good in theory...

Grandma is elderly and doesn't have much time left. She can't possibly come here. So, what is of worth to one, isn't of much worth to another.

I made my choice. Grandma loses. I'll pay the price for that one.

I posted in haste this am after I decided to let my son go to his event and postpone my trip to my mom's.  I had a lot I wanted to squeeze in due to the loss of my time this weekend. So it doesn't really say what it should have.

Ah well. My bad attitude.

   

It all sounds good in theory....but....
 
It wouldn't be a great time for me and my son, as Dad will surely be there dragging him around while my daughter and I sit and do not much of anything.

If we don't leave this morning, my daughter is going to be mad as she was looking forward to going to my mom's. Silly me for thinking I could plan something on MY time. Either way it's a lose/lose situation.

He wouldn't have talked to me at all if I hadn't refused to discuss it with my daughter.

Thanks for the offer, but I do not use AIM.

I have visitation with my kids this weekend. A few weeks ago, they mentioned to me that my son's Pinewood Derby for boyscouts was coming up, but they weren't sure when.

As I recalled, it had been at the end of the month in previous years. My daughter called me yesterday and asked me if I was taking them to the Derby this Sunday. Not knowing it was this weekend, I was quite perturbed and told her that was not something she and I should be discussing, that her father should have called me. (Not to mention he knew of this for at least 2 months.)

He called me and informed me that if I was not taking them that he would be at my home at 1pm to take them. Now, it might be one thing to ask me to take them. It would have been even better to ask me a long time ago. But to DEMAND that I take them...grrrrrrrrrr!!!!

I told him I wanted it in writing, and he refused. This is the second time in less than a month that he has caused chaos by telling the kids of things that are going on during  MY VISITATION TIME. The last time he did this, HE called the police who informed him that he was WRONG, and to go away and leave me alone. But I ended up giving in that time and let the kids go to their grandparents with him.

I had plans for me and the kids this weekend to go visit my mother in another state. So what do I do...stay home and take him? It does mean a lot to my son. And once again it looks like I'm giving in. Or do I continue with my plans to go away for the weekend?

I am a tad bit curious as to why he's waited 1 1/2 years?

I think Soc must be on vacation :)
http://www.deltabravo.net/custody/missed-visit.htm

Do you think that a revised version of this letter would be appropriate in this situation?

My recent court order states:
"Father indicated he would very freely let the children go to mother's house and would encourage visitaion with mother. Father is found to be credible in his assertions."
and...
"Taking into account all the factors, father is the more accomodating parent that will encourage frequent and continuing contact between the children and their mother."


If I were to revise that letter to the effect that his credibility is in question, ie: On at least six occasions in the last 3 weeks he has refused the kids to visit me for
a. "you'll get to see her 4 days next week" (When in fact it is only 3 days)
b. My daughter has missed after school activities on 2 occasions because he and his wife couldn't pick her up. I offered to pick her up and take her home, but he refused. Why? "I don't think it's a good idea".
c. My daughter requested to visit me for one hour when dad and brother would be gone to boyscouts, one street down from my home. Answer, simply, NO.

As well, a phone call to me from my daughter was interupted and my daughter was ordered to hang up by SM at which time, with my daughter still on the line, the SM told me that it was all my fault because I didn't feed my kids and I have men over in the middle of the night. Both lies...but still interferring in Mr. Credible Dad's "credibility".

Think it would serve any purpose?

Do you think that a revised version of this letter would be appropriate in this situation?

My recent court order states:
"Father indicated he would very freely let the children go to mother's house and would encourage visitaion with mother. Father is found to be credible in his assertions."
and...
"Taking into account all the factors, father is the more accomodating parent that will encourage frequent and continuing contact between the children and their mother."

If I were to revise that letter to the effect that his credibility is in question, ie: On at least six occasions in the last 3 weeks he has refused the kids to visit me for
a. "you'll get to see her 4 days next week" (When in fact it is only 3 days)
b. My daughter has missed after school activities on 2 occasions because he and his wife couldn't pick her up. I offered to pick her up and take her home, but he refused. Why? "I don't think it's a good idea".
c. My daughter requested to visit me for one hour when dad and brother would be gone to boyscouts, one street down from my home. Answer, simply, NO.

As well, a phone call to me from my daughter was interupted and my daughter was ordered to hang up by SM at which time, with my daughter still on the line, the SM told me that it was all my fault because I didn't feed my kids and I have men over in the middle of the night. Both lies...but still interferring in Mr. Credible Dad's "credibility".

Think it would serve any purpose?