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Mist,
since your ex had borderline personality / histrionic / narcissistic personality who has custody of the children you or her? if she has custody why wasn't that sufficient for you to gain custody?

Thanks

what do the ad litem's look for? if they are speaking on behlaf of the child does that mean the child gets to voice who they want to live with and it holds substance in court?

ex is asking the court for an attorney ad litem. has anyone on this board ever used one? If so what are their roles and purpose? is there any advantage to one parent or the other having one?

Mist,
do you think the court will view me as "BAD" because i had our child ask rather than me? I don't want to be seen in the court as negative. I have never put our child in the middle because it would harm the child emotionally. what's your thoughts?

Thanks
John

thanks for the response. My whole take on this situation is if I was to ask my ex to adjust the schedule she would say the thought is from me and not our daughters wishes. It's the only time that this has happned but i'm sure my ex will claim it happens all the time.

When i did speak to my ex i told her it was our childs wishes and not mine. My child see's a psychologist and they have advised me to let our child voice her thoughts and opinions to both parents becuase if it only comes from me, the ex wouldn't believe it.

But i do agree with you that my daughter probably lied to her mother to aviod the consequences. My ex and I have a very bad line of communication. In fact my ex gives the school H3LL all the time as well as our childs dentist and doctor so she has a history of giving people problems.

My child recently left for her mothers for the thanksgiving break. My child spoke to her mother eariler in the week expressing the desire to leave closer to thanksgiving so she could spend some time at home. My child called her mother a 2nd time the day she was suppose to leave and again expressed her feelings. When my child arrived at her mothers apparently her mother grilled her and talk to her about her feelings.

I rec'd a email from my ex claiming i told my daughter to tell her mother "I don't want to come can i come later during the week". In my ex's email she claimed i put my child up to it and if she didn't say this to her mother I would be mad at her and now she's claiming emotional abuse.

I never told our child anything other than to talk to her mother about it to see if she would be agreeable to let her come later in the week. However, i alway encourage a relationship between the two and have never denied any sort of phone contact or visitation.

What do i do that now i think she is coming at me with emotonal abuse?
is this a he said she said sorta of thing that the court could careless about?

I have many of expert witnesses that say now manipulative and lying my ex is. So she is distorting the whole situation to her benefit.

I analyzed her complete grades from day one this year not leaving out any grades and look at the #'s

when my child is with me without interruption her grades are 91.96 as a overall average.

when she either travels to her mothers her grades drop to a 72.12 as a overall average the week she leaves to the Monday she is back. Because it takes a day or two to get her readjusted each time

my daughter just came home with her 2nd report card for the year. The 1st report card she made 3 high B's and one A. The current report card she made 3 high B's and a C. Last year she made all A's and B's and only 1 C for the entire year on her report card.

My concern is can my ex wife use against me in court my child making a C on her report card. My daughter is trying her best but I'm not sure how the courts would see a C and if they will try to use that against me in the horrific custody battle she is waging after being a non custodial parent for 8+ years.

so let me get this straight. you think she is going to try to attempt to regain custody based on needing child supprt?

with regards to the credit report anything can be asked for during discovery, but it wouldn't be harmful if you had a charge off or delq. one thing they can ask for as well is all statements since your husband has had custody to see if there are any negative charges on the card such as bars, gentelman clubs, 900 #'s etc to try to show the environment isn't good for the kids. if no of those are on there you don't have nothing to fear.

How long have you had custody of your kids? My ex tried to use the same method/theory against me regarding a credit report but the judges don't care that you have a charge off or delq. they rather that happen than let the child go without.

But anyway how long have you had custody and what would her contentions be on trying to prove you unfit or not qualified?