DH and BM are required to use a Parenting Consultant to decide issues they cannot. The PC decisions are legally binding after two weeks if neither party files in court for a decision to be changed. And even if one or both parents disagree with a decision they're required by CO to follow the decision until a judge changes or affirms it.
Interested to hear opinions on this... BM is high conflict, so it makes PC decisions that are not in her favor very difficult and stressful. Recently she brought 2 issues to the PC. She wanted to discontinue the SD's Thursday overnight at DH house and to change the exchange point.
Two years ago, BM (custodial) moved 40ish miles away and claimed SD were missing school activities etc. by having to come to DH house every Thursday. The PC met with SD to get their input (they're 12 and 15). They corroborated BM's claim they are missing school activities on Thursdays, and suggested they come over another night.
The PC decision was emailed to us last week. The Thursday overnight is now to be Monday, and the exchange point was moved six miles closer to BM. HOWEVER, the PC also ruled all exchanges are to happen at this new exchange point. In the past, with the old schedule, DH was driving them to school every Friday, and picking them up from school every other Friday (for our weekend with them). When BM claimed she was doing most of the driving, she was very wrong. We were doing 3 times the driving she was.
BM sent DH and email saying she can't meet on Monday and Tuesday mornings because she's going back to school and her classes may interfere (she's been talking about these classes for months but has not registered). BM then sent the PC an email telling PC that her work interferes, and she's unable to comply with the new driving requirements. Her story keeps changing, and we suspect she's lying about her work schedule. She works overnights at a fast food place and claims she gets off work at 7am. OSD told us it was more like 4:30am.
We are really gun shy about the PC decisions. BM had one overturned when she moved the girls 40ish miles away without tell DH. She changed their school without his knowledge. But since she'd already moved, the judge overturned the PC decision. If this one ends up in court, would/could a judge force BM to change her work schedule to accommodate this new arrangement? She works shift work and has altered her schedule multiple times in the past (but now suddenly can't).
Interested to hear opinions on this... BM is high conflict, so it makes PC decisions that are not in her favor very difficult and stressful. Recently she brought 2 issues to the PC. She wanted to discontinue the SD's Thursday overnight at DH house and to change the exchange point.
Two years ago, BM (custodial) moved 40ish miles away and claimed SD were missing school activities etc. by having to come to DH house every Thursday. The PC met with SD to get their input (they're 12 and 15). They corroborated BM's claim they are missing school activities on Thursdays, and suggested they come over another night.
The PC decision was emailed to us last week. The Thursday overnight is now to be Monday, and the exchange point was moved six miles closer to BM. HOWEVER, the PC also ruled all exchanges are to happen at this new exchange point. In the past, with the old schedule, DH was driving them to school every Friday, and picking them up from school every other Friday (for our weekend with them). When BM claimed she was doing most of the driving, she was very wrong. We were doing 3 times the driving she was.
BM sent DH and email saying she can't meet on Monday and Tuesday mornings because she's going back to school and her classes may interfere (she's been talking about these classes for months but has not registered). BM then sent the PC an email telling PC that her work interferes, and she's unable to comply with the new driving requirements. Her story keeps changing, and we suspect she's lying about her work schedule. She works overnights at a fast food place and claims she gets off work at 7am. OSD told us it was more like 4:30am.
We are really gun shy about the PC decisions. BM had one overturned when she moved the girls 40ish miles away without tell DH. She changed their school without his knowledge. But since she'd already moved, the judge overturned the PC decision. If this one ends up in court, would/could a judge force BM to change her work schedule to accommodate this new arrangement? She works shift work and has altered her schedule multiple times in the past (but now suddenly can't).