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Very often, status-quo is given a great deal of consideration when it comes to matters such as these and having a 4-year parenting plan in place is a huge advantage for you.

However, with the family court system heavily tilted in favor of mothers, be prepared very well in advance, because "mom" very often trumps everything else in family court.  Don't go in as a father as though your continued arrangement is a foregone conclusion.

Assuming the story and accusations are true - she's not going to get out from under her responsibilities to support her ex-spouse.

You keep a personal journal with pertinent details... the company applied to, contact name (if any), email (regardless), date, and be sure to post follow up notes like "call, no-callback, interview, 2nd-interview, etc." - for every job you send a rez out for regardless of how ridiculous you think it is.

Copy yourself on every email sent so you have another electronic record as evidence.

Most sites like Monster and Career Builder - if you register with them, will send to your inbox an e-confirmation of every job you've applied for through their site, with a link to all of the job details. 

They should but they often don't.  It's a crime to make unsworn falsifications to authorities and yet - those who make them almost never are sanctioned for doing so.

I am unclear.  If the judge issued an order, what is it that has been put before DH and by whom?

Also, don't sign it!

The problem is at least as much, if not more, "the system" as it is his attorney.  It is without a doubt very likely that if the genders were reversed, this thread would have a much different outcome.

I've seen all kinds of stories and nothing makes my head spin anymore. 

I would call every single day, sometimes more than once per day, until you're absolutely certain.  Just because they send you a letter doesn't mean someone there can't tell you when the hearing is on the docket.  A few clicks of a mouse and they have their answer - you just have to be persistent in getting it.

If it takes a visit - you do it.  Too much damage can be done with a single, ex-parte false accusation resulting in a restraining order.

I, too, understand and sympathize with your dilemma.  However, I don't think you would have posted here if you didn't know in your heart what the right answer was.  More important than your showing support for the father - you will be showing support for the child.

It may simply be that the 15YO is the client and neither parent is permitted to review the records.

And, if you have joint legal custody, physical custody has no bearing on what rights you have to medical records.  If you have joint legal custody - you're entitled to all appropriate records regardless of where the children reside most of the time.

If you son wants this, you gather up every piece of supporting documentation and/or witness to make it happen.  Please be sure your motivations are on the level.

Also, it's a common misconception that children reach some magical age where they can "choose" with whom to live.  That's not true.  Most state statutes have an age where the court will consider the child's wishes and (allegedly) make his decision based upon the feedback of the child to ensure the reasons are legitimate, genuine, and persuasive (and that it's not about going to the "Disneyland House").