Hi- Sorry...I was not in the office yesterday. We walked away with joint legal custody, which we had none before. Same visitation schedule as before only 3 weeks instead of 2 vacation. Everyother year tax exemption and we agreed to pay 50% of all health costs. we didnt end up going to trial but settling outside the courtroom. It still took almost 8 hours of negotiating and we walked away not happy but not sad, we are content. We have Wednesday overnights noow and BM wanted to put in agreement that they would cease once child became of school age, but we refused unless she was willing to determine then and there where the days would be made up. She refused, but we stuck in there and didnt give in, we ended up wording the agreement that both parties agreed that the minor child entering school was a major change in circumstance. This would not allow the BM to just take away our Wednesday when child started school. But if she was not willing to reach an agreement with us about a new vistiation schedulel that we liked, it would be HER responsibility to take us back to court in 3 years. (She is the type that would just take them away and that was that. We also got all federal holidays appended to he weekends we had her in our custody only problem is Labor Day and Memorial Day fall on the same parents weekend for 7 years in a row so we are discussing making those seperate holidays and rotating them. We ddefinately would've liked more visitation, but if we had gone to trial we probably wouldnt have gotten joint legal which is a plus. She has final decision making power though so i dont know how beneficial it will be to us. I believe overall we did well, we accept the fact that we will probably be back in court in three years but until then we have our lives back. As for the daycare nothing was changed but wee made special note to all parties that we didnt agree with the arrangement and that any mishaps that became of her staying there were under the sole decision making of the BM. That way if something happens we can use it against the BM for making the bad choice. Its true in court you never WIN and i dont feel a lot better or a lot worse. I am still dealing with the fact that this will be ongoing for the next 16 years. It does bring some satisfaction in that the mother wanted to change her mind on the agreement at the last minute and wasnt allowed to . So atleast i know she left more upset then us, which to some may be cruel but to me is a small victory after the hell we have been through. We are still working through some small gliches like Memorial Day and Labor Day and I will let you know what comes of them. Aim high in what you want, but dont put all your hopes into it....be willing to JUST be satisfied. Good Luck to all of you fighting, who knows over the years the system may get better..lol