If you have 50/50 and joint legal, then just go ahead and schedule the appt for the psychologist during your custodial time. Inform the mother in writing (e.g., email) 24-48 hours prior to the appt, and explain your concerns in a very concise manner about why you've scheduled the appt. Invite her to attend.
Let her try to contempt you, which is the worst that she can do. If your daughter is exhibiting signs of stress (as you describe), no judge is going to find it unreasonable that you sought professional help.
I think worst thing that will happen for you is that you may pay for the entire amount of the counseling, if mother refuses.
Let her try to contempt you, which is the worst that she can do. If your daughter is exhibiting signs of stress (as you describe), no judge is going to find it unreasonable that you sought professional help.
I think worst thing that will happen for you is that you may pay for the entire amount of the counseling, if mother refuses.