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Title: better late then never
Post by: MYSONSDAD on Dec 24, 2004, 06:43:56 PM
Well, 12 hours later, I got him....Our first Christmas

About damned time!!

"Children learn what they live"
Title: RE: better late then never
Post by: Stepmom0418 on Dec 25, 2004, 06:15:53 AM
CONGRATS!!!!!! Enjoy your little one and Merry Christmas!!!! But I have to ask........What happened and how did you get him?? Please tell us!
Title: RE: better late then never
Post by: wendl on Dec 25, 2004, 09:57:15 AM
at least you have him enjoy your christimas together.
 Have a great one.

**These are my opinions, they are not legal advice**
Title: RE: better late then never
Post by: joni on Dec 25, 2004, 11:05:22 AM

MSD...wishing you and your son much love and happiness together.  I hope that this is the start of better things to come for you.  What joy to be able to share your first Christmas ever with your 3 y.o. son!  Make it the best ever!
Title: RE: better late then never
Post by: Hawkeye on Dec 25, 2004, 03:26:44 PM
That's the best Christmas "present" anyone could ask for!!! Congrats!!!

I bet she had a hot, last minute date - LOL They get so transparent after a while.

At least my PBFH had our son call me this afternoon... only 'after' I called her and asked her to have him call me. She has my phone number blocked on caller ID, contrary to court order, so I have to call her cell phone, which happens to be long distance. What a bunch of hooey. Phone cards work too, since there's no caller ID on them. heheh...

"Our" Christmas will be next week, after all it's really 'just another day', so to speak.
Title: Wonderful!
Post by: StPaulieGirl on Dec 25, 2004, 09:12:49 PM
I'm sure that your Christmas this year is awesome :-)
Title: Wonderful.....
Post by: msme on Dec 26, 2004, 05:59:20 AM
Enjoy it to the max. Here's wishing you & your DS many many more happy times together.

You never get a second chance to make a first impression!
Title: Yeeeeeeeeehhhhhaaaaawwww!!!!
Post by: kitten on Dec 26, 2004, 07:38:13 AM
:7 Merry Christmas, MSD!!!
Title: UPDATE, one word "FANTASTIC"
Post by: MYSONSDAD on Dec 26, 2004, 11:08:01 AM
Best Christmas of my life. Words can not describe...

I owe it all to the support and encouragement I receive here. On board and off, many have shared, encouraged, inspired, endured and given me the courage to press forward. There are several who have been very supportive off board. Especially one, who is always there to keep me on track. I am determined to keep fighting on until the end result and then I will fight some more. Determined to be the father my son deserves, needs and wants. And I need and want him.

Don't know exactly how this came about. I guess, calling her bluff, moving forward with a different angle. And as someone else put it, she is running scared now, is trying to undo her past mistakes.

Many very difficult challenges are sitting on my doorstep. We all know how damaging PAS truly is. The biggest challenge I have ever faced.  

So the bottom line, I owe this wonderful, fantastic Christmas to all of you. We are all struggling with different battles, and fighting toward the same result. NCP's DO matter, the family units, do matter, working toward shared parenting has to continue and we CAN do it, one step at a time.   EVERYDAY...

 
Title: RE: UPDATE, one word...right on dude :-)
Post by: StPaulieGirl on Dec 26, 2004, 04:02:19 PM
So what did you and your son do for Christmas?  I'm hoping there are many, many more fantastic Christmases for you and your son.  
Title: Please give the little guy ...
Post by: Davy on Dec 26, 2004, 05:43:23 PM
one BIG hug and a little peck from all your friends and tell him we love him a little also...God Bless !!
Title: High-Five
Post by: Bolivar on Dec 27, 2004, 05:59:51 AM
High-Five

This was my first X-mas with my son. :-)


Hugs and Kiss for all !!!!!!! :-)
Title: RE: High-Five
Post by: MYSONSDAD on Dec 27, 2004, 06:21:39 AM
And I bet is was a true "Kodak Moment"!

And we will keep pushing for more and more and more...

"Children learn what they live"
Title: RE: better late then never
Post by: MYSONSDAD on Dec 27, 2004, 06:26:07 AM
Yep, and you won't miss a thing. Christmas is all about  WHO you spend it with. A week later, doesn't matter!

Merry Christmas to you and your son!

"Children learn what they live"
Title: RE: UPDATE, one word...right on dude :-)
Post by: MYSONSDAD on Dec 27, 2004, 06:40:39 AM
It was GREAT! A few weeks ago, I let my son pick a name off the Christmas tree for a needy boy, same age as my son. He also picked out Christmas presents that he could give to our family. Just small things, but I want him to understand the gift of giving. He wrapped them, signed the card with his scribble and he remembered exactly who that present was for. Christmas Day, he had to help unwrap everyones presents. I must have gotten 8 hours of video taping. It could not have been better. Many Kodak Moments...

On a bad note, the PAS has kicked into very high gear.

"Children learn what they live"
Title: RE: Please give the little guy ...
Post by: MYSONSDAD on Dec 27, 2004, 06:42:57 AM
Thanks, Davy! The big hug given!

And to you too...


"Children learn what they live"
Title: RE: High-Five
Post by: wendl on Dec 27, 2004, 06:50:33 AM
MSD,
I am so glad you were able to share the holiday with your son. This year was the 1st year I haven't had my son (we usually split the day with his dad or dads parents if dad isn't around.

Even though dh and I had no kids, they were in our hearts and we know they had a good day.

May more time with your son come your way in the new year to come.

Hugs to you and yours.

**These are my opinions, they are not legal advice**
Title: THX!
Post by: MYSONSDAD on Dec 27, 2004, 07:01:37 AM
It is hard not to have them, but you will have your Christmas! Our first Christmas was on January 29. Left all the decorations up and did everything just like it was Christmas day. And none of us noticed the difference.

Are you close enough to split Christmas eve and day? I think that is a good solution when distance is not a problem.

"Children learn what they live"
Title: RE: THX!
Post by: wendl on Dec 28, 2004, 06:15:20 AM
We used to only llive 4 miles from eachother so splitting it wasn't a problem, now we ar efather to I decided to do every other xmas.

I hope you continue to be able to see your child during the holidays. This one probably was one of the greatest.

**These are my opinions, they are not legal advice**
Title: RE: UPDATE, one word...right on dude :-)
Post by: StPaulieGirl on Dec 28, 2004, 06:21:06 AM
What a good idea.  I toyed with the idea of helping out at a soup kitchen or food pantry, but it never got very far.  Picking a child's name to give a gift to sounds more doable.  These are good, solid holiday traditions, and I think that sooner or later it's going to counteract the PAS.