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Title: Father already gave up Rights!!
Post by: roddenbj on Jan 04, 2004, 11:12:31 AM
My fiance already gave up his rights. He was told by his Ex-wife that it was due to medical reasons for the children. Her new Husband is in the Army and she stated that the children would have full benefits from the Army if he is able to adopt them. She then stated that she was going to make the last name the fathers-the adopted fathers. I believe that my fiance was conned into this and we really need to know if there is anyway out. The children live in a different state then where the paperwork was drawn for the resignation of rights. Does he still have a chance to get his rights back? His daughter wants to be with him and he has no leg to stand on without rights to that child!

Please Help Someone!!!!!!
Title: Brent, any thoughts here?
Post by: nosonew on Jan 04, 2004, 05:24:24 PM
Questions:
1. How long ago did this occur?  
2. How old is the child now/then?
3.  What on earth was he thinking?
4. Were you with him at this time?
5. Does he still have contact with the kids, if so, what, how much?

Thanks, this will help answer your previous question.
Title: RE: Brent, any thoughts here?
Post by: roddenbj on Jan 04, 2004, 07:57:35 PM
>Questions:
>1. How long ago did this occur?  not even a year ago
>2. How old is the child now/then? child was 12 now 13
>3.  What on earth was he thinking? he was conned into thinking he was doing a good thing for his daughter cause her stepfather is in the military and hw was told that she couldn't receive full benefits if he didn't adopt her.
>4. Were you with him at this time? yes, but I was scepticle, it was his decision, not mine, we did not find out about this till it was too late.
>5. Does he still have contact with the kids, if so, what, how
>much? Actually, Yes. She just visited us for a week and we found out that she never wanted to be adopted under the terms that had happened, she was lied to too. She still wanted her fathers last name and she was told by the mother that her dad would still have rights to her and she would be able to see him. The only thing that the mother did do was let them see each other. Now the daughter wants to live with us cause her mother forces her to call the other man in her life daddy and the daughter is not wanting to cause she feels she already has a daddy.
>
>Thanks, this will help answer your previous question.
Title: try posting on Soc's board
Post by: gipsy on Jan 04, 2004, 10:36:50 PM
Soc's board answers legal questions
Title: For Socrateaser - follow Mandatory Guidelines for posting, please!
Post by: MKx2 on Jan 05, 2004, 07:00:14 AM
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Title: RE: Father already gave up Rights!!
Post by: Indigo Mom on Jan 05, 2004, 07:13:34 AM
1st of all, how long ago did he give up his rights?  I know there have been a few adoptions overturned years after they took place.  It wasn't easy or cheap.  

I don't know what to say about this one....cept that poor sap needs a REALLY good lawyer to pull him out of this one!!!!
Title: Details of adoption posted under roddenbj's 2nd post, this thread.
Post by: MKx2 on Jan 05, 2004, 07:23:33 AM
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Title: RE: For Socrateaser - follow Mandatory Guidelines for posting, please!
Post by: roddenbj on Jan 05, 2004, 09:33:28 AM
I am new at this, so if you can please help me out. I do not know where to go.

Title: RE: Brent, any thoughts here?
Post by: StPaulieGirl on Jan 05, 2004, 09:48:06 AM
Okay, the child still has contact with her dad?  That's good.  Listen-  she's already 13. In 5 years she will be a legal adult, and can change her name back to her original last name.  Her mother is nuts trying to make a teenager call a stepfather daddy, when she has a living father.  I would talk to an attorney about the legality of the adoption.

Besides that stuff, can you both provide the same medical coverage, etc, that her stepfather's military benefits cover?
Title: RE: For Socrateaser - follow Mandatory Guidelines for posting, please!
Post by: Kitty C. on Jan 05, 2004, 10:18:10 AM
Click on 'Top' at the top left-hand corner of this page, scroll down to 'Dear Socrateaser' and click on that.  That is the forum of our resident legal guru.  On his first page there is a link to the 'Mandatory posting guidelines', read that first before you post.  The reason for the guidelines is to allow Soc to answer and help as many people as possible as quickly as he can, since he's doing this ALL free to us!
Title: RE: Brent, any thoughts here?
Post by: roddenbj on Jan 05, 2004, 02:01:04 PM
Yes that is true, she is going to change her name back when she is able to. But I think that she can do it at 16 or 17, not sure. But the problem is that she wants to live with her daddy and not her mom. It looks like it is gonna cost a fortune. Thanks for the advise
Title: RE: For Socrateaser - follow Mandatory Guidelines for posting, please!
Post by: roddenbj on Jan 05, 2004, 02:02:56 PM
Thank you for your help