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OK .. I'm never married with a 3 year old daughter ..her mother and I have joint custody .. there's a stipulation in the visitation that no non-related person of the opposite sex can be present for overnights, YET .. I just recently got engaged and purchased a home with my fiance'. This stipulation is no more than an inconvenience.

Can anyone suggest a way around this ?
I would think that an engagement is enough of a committment short of marriage.

Help !!

Well, she would actually have to (the mother) take you to court for contempt, in which case, you can "play dumb" and state you didn't realize it meant a fiance...etc.  You would only get a slap on the wrist most likely, if that.  Is your ex gf dating or anything?  Would she throw a fit about it?  Perhaps if you see trouble looming about this, you could have an attorney make an amendment to state "No non-relative except in the case of engagements and/or marriage".

Good luck

Thanks.  I know that it's already stated and understood (by BM telling me that she won;t be able to do anything about it once I'm married) that non-related doesn't include fiance's.
I know I could act dumb, but she's more than likely going to raise a stink about it.

Apply for a modification of the order to have the "moral clause" removed.  It shouldn't be that difficult since you are in a committed relationship.

OR

Go visit the justice of the peace and get married -- You can still have the big wedding if you want to later to celebrate

OR

Don't have your fiance move in to the house until after the wedding.  Or have her visit a friend or family the nights that your daughter is in your home.

OR

Just ignore the order and see what your ex will do.  She can file contempt charges, but I doubt anything would come of it.

If your ex is wanting to make a stink over this, be ready for it to get much worse before it gets better.  

Hang in there.