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Title: To those who have been following my posts and any others interested!
Post by: Stepmom0418 on Sep 22, 2004, 04:59:08 PM
Court in the morning!! Please think of us and add us to your prayer lists as we go to court.

DH is trying to have the mediation agreement waived and also has 9 counts of contempt on BM.

DH attorney called this afternoon and said he spoke to BM attorney. BM attorney is now saying that from this point on he will seek attorney fees because DH is filing frivolous suits.

LOL!! That tells me one thing......BM has been telling her attorney lies just as she does everyone else. Thats ok because they are all, including BM, going to be very surprised when DH attorney enters all of Dh evidence to support his "frivolous" suit!!! We got police reports, voicemail messages, letters from BM as well as letters to BM, and ect to support this " frivolous" suit!!

Seems to me that this is getting down right interesting!! I will report back after court to let you all know how it goes!!

Wish us luck and lots of prayers!!

Tonight our focus is to try not to stress and to get a good nights rest!! That in its self might be a chore! LOL!!
Title: RE: To those who have been following my posts and any others interested!
Post by: MixedBag on Sep 22, 2004, 05:05:07 PM
Let me be the first....to wish you luck.

Hopefully your attorney can get it all included as evidence as you think.
Title: RE: To those who have been following my posts and any others interested!
Post by: Stepmom0418 on Sep 22, 2004, 05:33:41 PM
DH attorney says that there shouldn't be many problems with the evidence getting entered.

That and the other thing we are excited about is the fact that Bm is always telling lies and changing her story from one minute to the next so it should be very interesting!!


On another note........ We have the TRUTH on our side!!!!!!! That has to count for something..........or at least we hope it does!!!!

Thanks for your reply and I hope that everyone will remember us as your day progresses and tomarrow ours will be standing still. (or at least i am sure it is going to seem that way for us)
Title: RE: To those who have been following my posts and any others interested!
Post by: MixedBag on Sep 22, 2004, 06:51:16 PM
DH had the truth too -- and his attorney wasn't allowed to enter the police report we had into evidence where it said that BM tried to kill her children.  Yep, you read right.

And the judge wouldn't let DH's attorney enter any recordings from phone calls either....

Then again, DH had a crooked judge.

I do wish you good luck.....just don't get your hopes up too high!

And by all means, come back and share what happened.
Title: RE: To those who have been following my posts and any others interested!
Post by: wendl on Sep 22, 2004, 07:01:33 PM
lmao the TRUTH, will kill you sometimes.
In our trial bm lied her ass off and our atty got her on them, however dh and I TOLD the truth and it got him reduced time with his kids.

I wish you all the luck and prayers from our family to yours.

Let us know what happens.
:)

**These are my opinions, they are not legal advice**
Title: Prayers coming your way!!!!!!!!!!
Post by: Kitty C. on Sep 23, 2004, 06:51:38 AM
And not very far away, I might add!  And if you can't get back to me today yet, I'll call you tomorrow, okay??
Title: UPDATE!!!
Post by: Stepmom0418 on Sep 23, 2004, 12:08:44 PM
Well..........

WE GOT THE MEDIATION AGREEMENT WAIVED!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! We got to trial on Feb 9 and 10th for a 2 day trial.


We dismissed the contempts WITH predigest! (we can at any time file them and any new contempts!)

In the new order it says:

DH gets eow and eoh
extra holiday time (3 days for thanksgiving, 6 days for christmas)
BM is ordered to send any homework with SS to our house if he has homework on DH weekend.
mediation agreement set aside
trial date set for Feb 9th and 10th
dismissed contempts WITH predigist.

So our ULTIMATE goal is met!!!!!! We are going to trial and if BM is at all smart she will FOLLOW the co now and allow DH his time with SS!!!


Thank You All for your prayers and support!!!

Title: WOOOHOOOOO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Post by: Kitty C. on Sep 23, 2004, 01:02:40 PM
Now you can just sit back and wait of her to screw up again......because you KNOW she will, LOL!  She just can't help herself!
Title: I have been patiently waiting for your news!!
Post by: smtotwo on Sep 23, 2004, 01:09:57 PM
I hope everything goes better for you and DH!  

Our contempts were also "held open" and it did help some.

CONGRATUALTION!!
Title: RE: WOOOHOOOOO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Post by: Stepmom0418 on Sep 23, 2004, 01:12:35 PM
You got it right!! We know she cant follow the co and now she has actually been before a judge and said ON RECORD that she agrees to the order.

The tricky part is yet to come. She, I am sure, will try something against CO for Thanksgiving because she is going to try and say that it is her weekend. It is in the co and actually Dh will be shorted a day because ss has to go back to school.

So............now we wait and see and you know that at the first sign of trouble we will be right back to court on ALL of the contempts!!!



Thanks Kitty for all of your support!!
Title: RE: I have been patiently waiting for your news!!
Post by: Stepmom0418 on Sep 23, 2004, 01:16:13 PM
Thank you!!

The biggest victorys today were:

1) Getting to set aside the mediation agreement and to go to trial!!

2) The WITH prejudice on the contempts!!

3) The fact that if and when she messes up it is on record this time and I am sure a judge is not going to be too happy if we come back on the contempts!

4) We SHOULD get to see SS with a little less DRAMA from BM but there again I am not going to count my chickens before they hatch either!
Title: Another UPDATE
Post by: Stepmom0418 on Sep 26, 2004, 06:37:03 PM
When we were in court last Thursday Bm agreed that DH could have SS for the day on 9-26 (sunday) from 8 am to 7 pm for a family get together b/c father in law is having pace maker put in on Tuesday. (father in law requested ALL his kids and grandkids be at this get together) Anyways BM agreed but it was off the record and not in the new CO, so we really didnt think that we would get him for the day given her track record.

We showed up at 8 am as we arranged and to much of a suprise BM had SS up and ready to go!!

SS gets in the car and tells DH and I how much he missed us! (bm denied last 2 visits) Then he told us that he heard all kinds of "bad" things about us from his BM but that he doesnt believe what she said either!! He also said that he KNEW that we did come to pick him up at his house too!!

We went to my grandmas house where all of the rest of the kids were waiting.........they had no idea where we went or that SS was coming for the day. We didnt want to get their hopes up just in case!

We walked in and all the kids were shocked!!

We had a wonderful day!!! It was great!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

(when dh picked up ss and when we took him home Bm acted like nothing ever happened in court and never said a bad word)

Dh hopes that the contempts hanging over her head have her a bit scared and HOPEFULLY she wont deny any more of DH's time!!!!!
Title: RE: Another UPDATE
Post by: wendl on Sep 26, 2004, 06:45:25 PM
I am so glad ss was able to make it, sounds like you all had a great time.

:)

**These are my opinions, they are not legal advice**
Title: RE: Another UPDATE
Post by: kitten on Sep 26, 2004, 07:38:10 PM
If she is anything like our bm, she will start up again soon.  Don't mean to be a downer.  :(  We have been video taping all of the exchanges just in case.  Good luck to you and yours!
Title: RE: Another UPDATE
Post by: Stepmom0418 on Sep 27, 2004, 04:18:02 AM
We dont really expect that she will keep following the CO but at this time we are just glad we got to see SS. Especially since she seems to like the drama.

For us the drama is getting old and we dont like it at all.

We just wish that she could see the hurt she causes SS when she denies dh his visits.


Since we still have 9 counts of contempt hanging over her head maybe she will follow the CO for a while. If not back to court we will go!!! (might be wishful thinking that she will follow the co at all given her track record but at least we seen him sunday)

Dh is not going to stand there and let her interfeer with his time any longer!! It has got old and has started to really affect the kids that live with us.

Title: RE: Another UPDATE
Post by: mirandalin5 on Sep 27, 2004, 08:54:46 AM
Congrats to you and your hubby!!

I know it's been said over and over...make sure you keep great records.  I keep a journal and calendar of everything and it helps in court.  usually the other party is just sitting there lying with no proof of anything.  I think it's wonderful that as a stepmother you take suce a vested interest in your step child.  Your husband is lucky.  Most step parents aren't as considerate as you are.

Congrats again!
:-)
Title: RE: To those who have been following my posts and any others interested!
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