WV
Per court order, I am required to reimburse EX for gasoline expenses when he has to pick up our son from the airport. I sent EX a personal check for reimbursement via priority confirmed delivery. UPS says it was delivered 1/11/06. Check still hasn't cleared my account.
1. How long do you recommend I wait?
2. And what action would you recommend?
may I send you an e-mail since my EX reads the boards with some more background?
>WV
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>Per court order, I am required to reimburse EX for gasoline
>expenses when he has to pick up our son from the airport. I
>sent EX a personal check for reimbursement via priority
>confirmed delivery. UPS says it was delivered 1/11/06. Check
>still hasn't cleared my account.
>
>1. How long do you recommend I wait?
>
>2. And what action would you recommend?
>
>may I send you an e-mail since my EX reads the boards with
>some more background?
>>1. How long do you recommend I wait?
There's nothing to wait for. You sent a check. If the other parent doesn't cash it that's not your problem. Just keep your proof of mailing.
>>2. And what action would you recommend?
Magarita on the rocks. Or, if it's cold out, Irish coffee.
Would this also apply to child support checks not being cashed?
I'm drinking my Irish coffee every morning....
>Would this also apply to child support checks not being
>cashed?
More facts, please. Need hypothetical.
WV
Per court order, I am to start paying CS on the first and 15th of the month beginning March 1st. (CS was suspended for a while, so I stopped my electronic allotment which was in place).
It was not ordered to be paid through any state agency, directly to dad. I have no problem with that.
So, what do I do if dad starts "sitting on" those checks?
Not legal advice, just SM advice....
If the problem is that he's messing with your accounting by "sitting" on the cheques, would it be easier to pay your branch the $0.50 (or whatever their fee is), and get a draft made? That way the money clears your account same day, and he can sit on it as long as he wants, you won't be affected?
(Either that or find out his account number and transfer funds directly into his account in the exact amount and date of the order?). Not necessarily setting up an automatic transfer, just transferring each time?
Soc will know if either of these could backfire from a traceability point of view, I'm just looking at it from a "get him out of my accounting" point of view.
Momto2
Mixed,
Maybe you need a seperate checking account for cs and transportation costs. That way you deposit the money and never touch it again. It wouldn't suprise me if he is waiting to get a huge amount accumilated and cash the checks all at once thinking you will forget what is still outstanding, and they will bounce. Then he can try to get you for writing bad checks and you will have a huge overdraft fee.
The Witch
Remember . . . KARMA is a Wonderful Thing!!!!!
>Mixed,
>
>Maybe you need a seperate checking account for cs and
>transportation costs. That way you deposit the money and never
>touch it again. It wouldn't suprise me if he is waiting to get
>a huge amount accumilated and cash the checks all at once
>thinking you will forget what is still outstanding, and they
>will bounce. Then he can try to get you for writing bad checks
>and you will have a huge overdraft fee.
>
>The Witch
>Remember . . . KARMA is a Wonderful Thing!!!!!
This is a little paranoid, in my opinion. Don't look for an evil motive -- it's mentally debilitating. Better, to simply set up your life so that you have protected yourself from obvious problems. So, I agree that a separate checking account for CS related matters may be a good move, if the objective is to keep accounts managable.
This is my own experience...One thing my X started doing and it works great for the both of us...Is he started sending Money orders vs personal checks. Not sure about your area, but in mine, there are places where I can get "Free" money orders.
You may even check with your bank and see if they offer free money orders and just send him that??? You would still have a receipt that it's paid and you wont have to worry about an outstanding check.
Hope this helps!
I believe that in the end, the burden of proof will be on methat I paid.
Giggles, to have a money order traced you have to wait like 90 days and then pay $7. At least that's what happened to me when I paid for something else with a money order, they lost it, and I got my money back in 6 months.
So I already send everything via priority confirmed delivery.
Yes, I like to keep my accounts manageable and straight and yes, the EX knows that which I believe is why he's hanging on to the other check for gasoline reimbursement. See -- it's honestly the ONLY outstanding check right now.
Oh well, right?
I have a plan and since EX reads, I won't post my plan of action.
But thanks for the ideas -- because it gave me the idea of what I'm going to do.
You may wish to look into if your checking account comes with an online Bill Pay option.
That's how I set up my CS payments (i.e., I scheduled bi-monthly payments, directly to biomom and never had to think about it again).
In this manner, the funds are immediately removed from your account, you have a record of the transaction, and the bank mails your ex a check.
The check is imprinted with "void after 180 days", and if it's never cashed, the money goes back into your account. I had this experience with one check (not related to CS).
You're ordered to PAY your ex a certain amount. If the bank removes the money from your account, and if the funds are mailed to your ex (i.e., as verified by the bank records easily accessed online)... then no one can accuse you of mailing a blank envelope (i.e., even with your delivery confirmation, can you show there's a check in it?!), or writing a bad check, or whatever.
Easy solution, and no matter what game he wants to play, he won't win.
My ex once tried to accuse me of not sending CS payment (via her attorney), and all I had to do was describe to her attorney how payment was made (per above)-- that the only possible explanations were that ex lost the check or is playing games. That ended that, and I never heard back.
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Just another opinion, go to your bank pay the extra 6 bucks for a cashiers check, payable to him have them put in the memo what it is for ie: transportation costs or child support, send it certified.
You and your bank will have a detailed record of the checks and its not your problem if he doesnt cash them, cause the great thing about cashiers checks is that they expire!
just another input.. Not even close to legal advise :)