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Title: I need prayers....
Post by: Indigo Mom on Mar 04, 2004, 04:54:33 PM
I've been shoved into the middle of a homicide investigation...starting at 11:45 today.  A 10 month old little boy was brutally beaten to death this morning by the mothers boyfriend....and I'm the "number 1" witness.

The 4 year old child watched her brother being killed.  New "developments" indicate the boyfriend shot a gun at the infant last night...but missed.  The 4 year old told me that "XXXXX shot my baby brother and then slapped him"...and things like "my baby brother is dead".  Today, I thought the child died of a gunshot wound...but that's not the case.  They boyfriend shot at the baby last night...and didn't beat him to death until today...when the mother STILL left her children in his care so she could leave.

The mother could have prevented this, so PLEASE, don't feel she is a victim.  I've reported her to the "abuse and neglect" hotline recently...but it did no good.  She's allowed her 2 children to be BRUTALLY beaten over the past few months...I acted too late.  She's more than likely going to be charged with this as well.  

I've been in the homicide units interrogation room because i"m a witness, and hub said he saw me on the news with holding the 4 year old child.  My home is swarming with the media, and I have cracked.  They all want to talk to me...fuck them and their blatant disregard for the fact that I'm falling apart at the seams.  

The 4 year old child has been taken by the state and about to undergo EXTREME counselling.  I hope I had something to do with this.

If you could please pray that I have the strength to "do" this...and at the same time be a mom to my children.  

I thank you, to anyone, who could send me anything...anything to keep me going.  I can't stop shaking, i'm useless to my children right now...i'm completely lost.  

I'm lighting a candle tonight for Brayden.  If you don't mind...could you do this, too?  Thank you so much....

Title: RE: I need prayers....
Post by: Forthelittleones on Mar 04, 2004, 06:44:10 PM
Hang in there!  You have my thoughts and prayers!  You did the right thing, it is the system who failed Brayden.
Title: RE: I need prayers....
Post by: gmaoftwo on Mar 04, 2004, 07:02:24 PM
OMG, Indy!!!  Such a horrid tragedy!!!!!  I will pray that you find the strength to get through this.  Don't be too hard on yourself either....you DID notify the authorities, but THEY failed to protect these children.

Sending prayers for that precious little boy, and for his sister too.
Title: RE: I need prayers....
Post by: kiddosmom on Mar 04, 2004, 08:03:03 PM
Hold it together, you are a strong willed mother who is going to do the right thing as always.
THe candle will be lit.
Title: RE: I need prayers....
Post by: StPaulieGirl on Mar 04, 2004, 10:41:34 PM
Oh my God.  Of course you have prayers from me.  For you and also the little girl and her family.  

Can you and the kids get out of town for a while? It might be best.  The media is disgusting.

Hang in there Indy.
Title: RE: I need prayers....
Post by: Peanutsdad on Mar 05, 2004, 05:15:33 AM
Indi,, you have my prayers, always. You hang tough lady.

As someone who deals with the souless jackals otherwise known as "The Media",, just keep the phone off, drapes closed, and a shotgun by the door loaded with rocksalt. They DO understand THAT.


You CANNOT assume any blame Indi. You tried to intervene, the system failed these kids, and a parent who should have had their interests first.
Title: RE: Thank you everyone...
Post by: Indigo Mom on Mar 05, 2004, 06:47:13 PM
I've been going through these weird "things"...yesterday, I was a right mess.  Shaking, crying, just these weird feelings.  Today, i AM MAD.  I am so crazy angry right now I can't even SEE straight.  Obviously, I'm unable to "stabalize" these weird feelings, so I'm getting help.  The only way I can describe "me" is that my entire body on the inside has been through a blender.  My innerds are mush.

The media kicked back up this afternoon.  I'm about tired of these people, and just called 7 news and went off sideways.  They're portraying this "poor" mother as a victim.  Let's just say...she won't be a "victim" much longer.  7 news put up a report that this "distraught mother" called 911.  Well, that distraught mother was ME.  She had a cell phone in her hand, yet she chose to leave her home, with her dying child and her 4 year old daughter who SAW it behind with the murderer.  She came to MY home screaming that "I" need to call 911 because Chris just killed her son.  Please, do NOT feel sorry for that "distraught" mother....I'm going to make sure she pays.  (child abuse resulting in death and negligence)

This "distraught" mother didn't give the police his name or description.  This "distraught" mother was screaming at the police rather than helping them.  This "distraught" mother spent the entire time yesterday on the phone calling friend after friend telling them that Chris killed her son.  Shock?  Maybe....but i don't think so.

This "distraught" mother came to my home last night wanting to borrow a shirt so she can go to the bar within hours of her sons murder and her 4 year old being taken away. This "distraught" mother was walking the streets today playing "catch me if you can" games with the media.  This "distraught" mother hasn't even shed a tear.  This "distraught" mother is already planning on having another child within a year.

This "distraught" mother, while in my home borrowing a shirt for the bar wasn't even CONCERNED about her child, who was brutally murdered.  All she could talk about was fleeing the state of Colorado and kidnapping her 4 year old from protective custody.  Her brother and sister are here now...dry eyed, even though their nephew was murdered.  Her mother is driving out this weekend to take her and the child back to chicago...they WON'T be taking the 4 year old.  Over MY dead body...and the states, of course, as they have her.  


And if you haven't puked enough yet...while I was on the phone to 911, she threw a big comforter in the dumpster behind her house.  When I screamed "what the F is that" (recorded by 911)...she responded..."just sh*t".  Her child lay dying in the home as she did this.  I let the police know, as I thought it might be the baby.  It was the gun.  She threw away the gun and told me last night that "chris used it to beat the baby".  The police never told me this.....but it's VERY relavant.


This "distraught" mother never called 911 while the boyfriend was in her home with her dying child.  She did NOT call them.  "I" had to.  She let the boyfriend get away without so much as a fight...or a simple fricken call to the police.  

Since I was the first one the 4 year old talked to, I'm still "wanted" by homicide.  I guess I have the "goods" they need to sock this bastard away for life...and then go after the mother, who, by the way, KNEW this guy was beating her children...and has known for quite some time.  

A gun was shot the night before the murder at 9pm...2 neighbors heard it.  So, the 4 year old telling me that "Chris shot my baby brother"...well, it was true.  It also puts the mother in the hot seat...as she left her children with this "man" who shot a gun at her infant son...the night before.  

She's still protecting this guy.  She said he's NEVER touched her children...though the victims body was covered with "new" fatal wounds and "old" abuse wounds.  She's still protecting him.  However, her 4 year old child knows how to tell the truth, and she isn't afraid to.  Her daughter will help bury both "distraught" mother and murdering boyfriend.

I do not believe in the death penalty...but for her?  I'd reconsider this.  Here's an article from 7 news.  They can't get it "right" to save their own lives....but, they're doing the "best" they can.

IF you get upset easily, do NOT go to this link...it's titled "Police: Man Describes Blows That Killed Infant"  Do NOT read this if you can't stand to hear descriptions of child abuse.

http://www.thedenverchannel.com/news/2901233/detail.html

I thank you for your kind thoughts and words...there's a 4 year old little girl that needs every type of prayer, good thought, good vibe, whatever.  She's not only seen her brother die, but...as bad as her mother is...she still lost her.  I wish I knew who her father was because I bet he could help her, too.

ps.  anyone who was wondering, this is the "mom" I've referred to as "welfare mooch".



Title: RE: Thank you everyone...
Post by: MYSONSDAD on Mar 05, 2004, 09:01:13 PM
Where is the bio Dad? Nothing mentioned about him.

"Children learn what they live"
Title: RE: The father?
Post by: Indigo Mom on Mar 06, 2004, 07:34:28 AM
Pick a man...any man, MSD.  This is another really sad part.  No one really knows who the father to each of these children are.   She had mentioned about 2 weeks ago (when she was blaming her 4 year old for beating the 10 month old) that she's trying to find "her" father so she can go live with him.  She didn't want this 4 year old to "continue" beating the infant.  (scapegoat, anyone?)  Anyway, I believe she's mentioned that a "possible" father for her lives in Texas, is in the military, going to school to become a nurse.  I believe I know a first name for him. I can't be absolutely certain that this is the case...as she's notorious for changing stories.

A possible father for the infant "could" be this guy (i know his first name, IF she wasn't lying about that) in Chicago...but that he's "worthless" isn't a "father", was "abusive" to her...her words, not mine.  

The sad thing?  Now no one is going to know who created this infant.  There's a father somewhere...who doesn't know A) he has a son, and B) that his son was brutally murdered.  I hope this lil guy now knows who his dad is...and that his dad isn't what "unmom" portrayed him to be.

MSD...I do apologize for leaving out info about the fathers....I didn't mean to do that.  I'm running on pure anger right now, and have had some serious weirdness going on inside of me.  I forgot to mention the situation with the fathers.  
Title: Despite your warnings not to read the article...
Post by: sweetnsad on Mar 06, 2004, 07:50:42 AM
I couldn't help myself and here I am, almost seven months pregnant with a 10 month old precious baby girl here, crying my eyes out as I type this...HOW AWFUL...HOW DESPICABLE...HOW ABSOLUTELY INHUMAN!!!  I have a pain in my chest from crying so hard...

Indy, I am so sorry you are in the middle of this...how could this happen???????  How could such a precious baby die so terribly???  I DON'T UNDERSTAND!!  Please help me understand how someone can do this to a helpless baby....babies need love and comfort...this poor child knew nothing except that he was being hurt and in pain and there wasn't anything he could do to stop it....

I'm sorry, I just can't type anymore right now....God Bless you Indy and I pray that you and this precious girl are protected.   I COULD JUST KILL THAT MOTHER....
Title: RE: Beyond angry
Post by: MYSONSDAD on Mar 06, 2004, 10:10:46 AM
I am beyond angry...

How can anyone do this to a child? Last week, in Indiana, a boyfriend who was watching an infant while the mom was at work, slammed the babys head into the floor. Again, no mention of a father. I wonder how many men out there are fathers and do not know. I wonder how many would have taken steps to be in the childs life.

I will pray for all those involved with this, but especially for the infant that died. I will pray for the 4 year old, what will this do to that child. A life time of nightmares.

This is by far, the worst...

Stay angry, everyone should stay angry over this.

"Children learn what they live"
Title: candles are lit and prayers are being sent....eom
Post by: joni on Mar 06, 2004, 12:47:01 PM
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Title: RE: I need prayers....
Post by: nosonew on Mar 07, 2004, 07:27:28 AM
Prayers sent your way from me.  Just hang in there indy, let your anger help you get thru this.  Then just keep hugging and loving your kids.  Don't talk to the media until after you talk to the police, and ask them what you can and can't say.  Just like in custody situations, don't give out your ammo before the trial.  Best wishes, hang in there, you're tough, you can do it!