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Sherry1, thanks for your response. I realize my income is not factored into the picture, and I am well aware of what is on the court order. Perhaps I didn't make my questions clear. BM has a couple hundred thousand in the bank and does make more money than BF. Based on your response, though, that probably does not matter to the courts. The state in question is IL. Yes, it is on the court order that BF is to pay for the medical insurance. So yes, it is therefore a necessity. I was just wondering if there was something our attorney is missing. It happens to be that BF has to pay for medical and dental, and BF has to pay additional CS when he's gone for an ARMY tour for just a few months (yet we have to fight to get it reduced when he comes back). BM was ordered to produce life insurance on herself years ago, yet hasn't, and has not been held responsbile for it by the judge. Is it our attorney being inept, or is this just the way it goes? Seems unfair, but if that is the system as it is, then at least I know a new attorney is not the answer.

My husband (J) is a cop and in the Army reserves. His ex-wife has a lot of money in the bank. She also lives with a man, so her household is a duel income. She has two kids (16, 14) from my husband, for which we pay child support. Every time J takes a tour, she takes us to court for more child support. The tour he is currently on is only 6 months long, yet she is now entitled to more than twice what we paid her previously. His children are considering private schools. Although we are proud, we cannot afford this on his cop's salary. His ex states we need to pay 1/2 and will fight us in court if necessary. I don't understand how she can get away with taking more money from us during these tours, and having us pay 1/2 of college, when her financial situation is so much better than ours. We have a child of our own, and I am concerned about her future. Isn't there a law that takes into account the mother's financial situation vs. the father's? He has another child to support, and has far less money than his ex does, yet every additional dime that comes in the door goes to her. Additionally, she refuses to take out life insurance on herself (which was court ordered), yet J has it with her as the beneficiary. She also refuses to pay for the kids' medical and dental insurance. That is all covered by us. Do we have any recourse here?