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I just went into the spoof card site - I LOVE it - Thank Thank you for this tip !!!

Thanks - ex uses Verizon

We have thought about changing our numbers - I dont know if the kids would tattle but what happens when H calls and she is there and says whose that? I do not think they would lie so mom of course would take phone and get the number calling from and block that too?

We did write her at attorneys advice and asked her to remove the blocks.  She wrote back that all communication can be done on the home phone to and from the kids. 

Weekends are free so that doesnt even use her minutes.

My gut from day one is this is a control issue.  She wants all communication through her only. 

I do agree that the kids SHOULD speak up.. but they are kinda in a bad spot - if they complain she may threaten to take the phones away.  that is how they communicate with friends by texting.   

We have thought about texting but H is not too into doing that... I wonder if he can text with the block on?

My Hubby's ex - without notice or discussion - has blocked our home phone, hubby's cell phone and my cell phone on both his kids cell phones so he cannot call them and they cannot call him.... Kids are 14 and 15 (16 in May).   We offered to buy them new phones for x-mas but ex said she was going to.    Ex relocated the kids to another county and they are busy with school and sports.  The cell is best way to communicate with the kids.  Hubby is also responsible for picking them up at their activities.  He feels this is also a safety issue should he have problems on his 50 minute drive to get them.... Any thoughts or suggestions? 

Background, ex took hubby back to court November 07 to reduce visitation to 1 day per month.  Judge stopped the trial and said he is not taking any time away and to settle the matter.  That was finally done in April, 2008.   Everything has been going according to the court order in place.

It seems that when things are going fine, the ex finds ways to create problems....

ex has brought petition to modify visitation from every other weekend year round and 1-2 nights during the week during summers months down to 1 day (sat-sun) per month citing that the kids are busy and have numerous social obligations.   At first, the children told law guardian they want the 2 weekends with the second being flexible and they can pick when they come.  We agreed.  Now, the children have changed their position that they only want the 1 day per month.   All parties believe the ex aided in their changed position but it is what it is.  The children are 13 and 14.  Father has never not gotten his children since the parties first separated in 1995.   Is the children's new position enough for a judge to reduce the visitation?  Father has been flexible all these years in allowing the children to attend activities on his weekend and working his visitation around such events.  Help ! This doesnt seem right.

Hello again.. to update, when returned to court, the law guardian reported that the kids wanted to continue 1 full weekend and another weekend but flexible in that they pick the weekend the come.  The Judge at that time recused himself and another judge will handle.  We offered settlement based on law guardian report.  Ex rejected it completely.   We took a deposition of the ex.  Outcome was father does everything he is supposed to, never not gets the kids, take them to their events, works around the kids activitites and yes she basically calls the shots... not very favorable to her... and yet still not willing to settle.  Claims this is at the children's request to visit 1 24 hour period per month.   The law guardian contacted the children again and yes they have reversed their position - they are ok with basically 1 weekend a month from Sat-Sun and the option to visit a second if they want to but not required.  The matter has been set down for trial.  Our attorney advises that she has not been able to show a change of circumstance but that the Judge will take the children's position into consideration - ages 13 and 14.   At a loss, do we spend another 5,000 for trial to end up with one weekend anyway.  The law guardian is favorable to our side as he has complied with and has been flexible with the children and their schedules.  Any suggestions???

we are in ny.. original divorce and all subsequent proceedings in monroe county.. she brought it in Orleans where she now resides and cousin is DA.  She moved out there in July 2003.  She ignored the courts direction at that time and we ended up settling on the day of trial.  This time around after denied to bring back to monroe, we brought motion for contempt.   Family Court is crazy in our area.... the Judge handling is a 1 man show - supreme, family, surrogate, you name it.   Let me know where in this site I can find the info regarding children doing better with both parents... thanks again.

Thanks. We do have an attorney.  Yes the SA and subsequent court order call for certain visitation.   She has moved to a small county in NY where her cousin is the DA... All previous court appearances where in county where we reside but she brought this action near her home and our request to bring back to our county was denied.   I believe she feels that since her cousin is the DA and she has basically talked the kids into the fact that seeing their father is ruining their social life.. that she has this in the bag.  We have brought a motion for contempt and requested additional visitation.  A law guardian was appointed and our next court date is in a week or so.  She brought several untrue allegations in her petition and we have requested a deposition.  She was not happy about that at all....  Our fear is that the kids will say they want the visitation reduced and due to their ages of 13 and 14 that the court will make their decision based on that...  We know that once the kids are 16 that we wont see them much but we are not willing to give up this time now.  Where are they research studies located in the site?

short overview.. divorced when kids 6 mos and 1 1/2 yrs... visitation was every mon and wed and every other weekend.  ex remarried and never had kids when married to second hubby - either with us or her mother.  ex married third time and moved about 45 minutes away.  dad agreed to waive weekday visitation (too hard for the kids) and retained weekday during summer and every other weekend.  ex taking to court to reduce visitation to 1 day per month citing kids are 13 and 14 and social lives are busy.   Every time we get the kids, they say they did nothing on their weekend home.   The kids are happy and have fun when they come on the weekends..  we allow them to go to whatever events fall on our weekend and work the visitation time around it - ex refuses to switch weekends.  1 day per month works out to 12 days per year to a dad.. this is not fair - how can he maintain his relationship with his kids when he wont see them.   Both kids complain that they do not like the 3rd hubby... can a court honestly take reduce visitation to this with a father who has always paid support and been involved with the children's lives... this is dad who in 13 yrs has never gotten a sitter when he has his kids !   HELP !