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Thanks for the reply Ocean.  I have a lawyer, attended parenting courses, CPR certified for adult, child and infant and I am looking into nuturing father classes.  I have an individual session with our coordinator but so does my ex on the same day at a time before my appt.  The individual sessions were requested by the coordinator due to me taking a stand about my ex's lies, manipulations and requesting ex to not be present during our daughters time with me.

I really would love to have the ability to co-parent with my ex.  However, I compromise and give while ex takes and accuses me of not working together.  I have documentation and witnesses of ex's behavior.  I am thinking that if parent coordination does not work court will be a definite possiblity where we can present facts and disolve the lies.

Do you have any wisdom for my individual session w/ coordinator

Our daughter is 11 months and I have had limited to no access to her for 8 months.  I attended all of the OB visits, breastfeeding classes, birthing classes, pediatrician visits, night care 3 nights a week, cleaning house and doing what needed to be done to help BM when I was not taking care of our daughter.  That all ended when our daughter was 3 months.

We are currently going through parent coordination.  BM has lied, cried and denied to manipulate the parent coordinator into thinking that I do not know how to take of our daughter and has said that I do not have the common sence to care for our daughters safety.  After 2 months of "coordinating" I have had no alone time with my daughter and now it looks like our parent coordinator is recommending the minimum time sharing plan (wednesday and every other weekend). 

Our first attempt at parent coordination was cancelled by BM.  Our first coordinator was suggesting 50-50.

BM's family is highly conflictive (verbally and physically) with any difference in opinion.  I don't believe it is our daughters best interest to be raised in a love you, hate you environment.  What should I do?  Any assistance would be greatly appreciated.