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I have resided in New Mexico with my wife and 2 kids ( 7 daughter, & 14 mo. son) since 2002. Me and my wife seperated on the 6th of december after discovery of her affair. We did sign a seperation agreement that stated niether would take the kids out of state without permition, which is noterized but was not filed.
  On the 16th I called her and was informed that she has left and gone to connecticut where her family is. I have talked to my daughter but my son and I cant talk due to his age. on the 19th I did file for divorce and she has since been served

1. what are my chances of getting them back in the state?

2. should I seek full custody or joint in respects of keeping in state

 I am sitting here in a world of heart. On december 6th I climed into bed next to my wife. she ( like she alway did ) was wairing her cell phone around her neck on a lanyard and it was blinking indicating a txt message. she was sound asleep and couriosity got the best of me. I slowly reached over and opened the phone and read " well my eyes are closing babe, I will call you tomarrow when he leaves" that was when she woke up and asked what the hell I was doing, I then asked about the message and she said it was her brother. I managed to get the phone of the lanyard and continued to look through it. I found pictures of her and a guy sitting cuddled up on my couch in my living room. to make a long storie short we got into a tugawar over the phone and it broke. I then left. she showed up at my fathers house demanding I give her my phone I refused and she went to the pay phone and called the cops. we both now have court dates for domestic violence.
   Later that week she and I signed and noterized a marital seperation agreement stipulating she would not take the kids out of state with out my permition. I did not get it filed because we had been talking and I thought there might be a chance for repair. on the 16th I tried to call her all day and only got the voice mail. at around 4 pm she finally awnsered and I ask if I could come over to talk. she then told me "I'm not there" she caught a plain early that morning and flew to connecticut. I have since discovered that she has been having this affair for close to 6 mo. she had gotten im a cell phone on her account and told me  it was for her brother. a bill which I had been paying. I have learned that this all started on the internet and that he had moved down here from indiana mounths ago. he is 20 years old , dosn't have a job or anything to offer, but she has chosen to take him with her to connecticut.  All I want is my kids back in the state where I can have a relationship. I have a 7 year old daughter and a 14 mounth old sone. I have talked to my daughter and told her I love her and miss her but I am so afraid my son will never know me. that monday I filed for divorce but due to the holidays I can not get intouch with my lawer. Hope to have some rights to atleast get the kids back here so I can see them