Hello!
I was wondering what is a reasonable transition time for a two year old who is coming to live with her father and step-mother who will be adopting? His daughter has a great bond with him and I, and she is comfortable in our home, thought she has never been allowed to stay over night at our home. We have petitioned to terminate the guardianship because we have been ready to take custody of my husband's daughter, and the guardian's are completely uncooperative. We have an approved home study, have been providing a scheduling of regular weekly visits a month a head of a time for at least 6 months now, have been providing all transportation for all visits ( my husband's daughter lives in a town that is 50 min. away from where we live), have been paying all child suport, and providing his share of her health insurance. We had submitted a six month transition plan for his daughter in December, which the guardians rudly denyed through their lawyer. In the plan that we submitted through our lawyer we said that we were open to suggestions, or possibly a plan that they would be ok with, but they wanted noting to do with it, and suggested nothing. So we have petittioned to have the guardianship terminated. They submitted to us a YEAR LONG transition plan for his daughter with stipulations such as if he were to be called to go over seas, that they will have custody of his daughter, etc.!! This is rediculas. If we cannont work anything out with them we will be going to court. They DO NOT want to go to court. They have implied that they know that they may lose. I know I've written a lot hear, but what do you think would be a good transition plan if we even submit one to them? They think that a year or longer would benifit her the best, but moving TO SLOWLY is also harmful to a 2 year old.
Any comments would be great, Thanx, SJ
I was wondering what is a reasonable transition time for a two year old who is coming to live with her father and step-mother who will be adopting? His daughter has a great bond with him and I, and she is comfortable in our home, thought she has never been allowed to stay over night at our home. We have petitioned to terminate the guardianship because we have been ready to take custody of my husband's daughter, and the guardian's are completely uncooperative. We have an approved home study, have been providing a scheduling of regular weekly visits a month a head of a time for at least 6 months now, have been providing all transportation for all visits ( my husband's daughter lives in a town that is 50 min. away from where we live), have been paying all child suport, and providing his share of her health insurance. We had submitted a six month transition plan for his daughter in December, which the guardians rudly denyed through their lawyer. In the plan that we submitted through our lawyer we said that we were open to suggestions, or possibly a plan that they would be ok with, but they wanted noting to do with it, and suggested nothing. So we have petittioned to have the guardianship terminated. They submitted to us a YEAR LONG transition plan for his daughter with stipulations such as if he were to be called to go over seas, that they will have custody of his daughter, etc.!! This is rediculas. If we cannont work anything out with them we will be going to court. They DO NOT want to go to court. They have implied that they know that they may lose. I know I've written a lot hear, but what do you think would be a good transition plan if we even submit one to them? They think that a year or longer would benifit her the best, but moving TO SLOWLY is also harmful to a 2 year old.
Any comments would be great, Thanx, SJ