I am the girlfriend. My boyfriend has a 4 year old daughter. They have joint custody with the mother being the Primary Care Giver. She is an abominable person. I won't bore you with every little detail that has gone on in the past year, but in short, he wants to get custody, or if nothing else, be named as Primary. She has a live-in boyfriend who spanks the daughter. The mom constantly neglects the child's needs by not taking her to the doctor when needed and letting her play outside without supervision (she almost drowned in a pond and has been hurt on several occasions, we have called the police to try and "catch her in the act", but to no avail). Any time that he tries to talk with her about his concerns the mom uses the daughter against him like a pawn. He does not want his daughter to be held as ransom by the mom. She has been letting him see his daughter more than what is allowed in the papers as long as it is convenient for her, so whenever he makes her angry she says he cant have her and then turns around and tells the daughter her daddy doesn't want to see her. She got mad one night and refused to give him the child's medicine because he was trying to reason with her. There are numerous other things that have happened. She is currently being investigated by HUD because of the live-in boyfriend and his kids living with the mom. (This to me is teaching the child to lie and cheat, plus seeing mommy and the b/f sleeping in the same room has to have a negative effect on her little mind...she talks about people being naked and sleeping together and such) He has spoken to two attorneys and both of them have said that the information he has (journals of events and what his daughter has told him, etc...) is not enough to take her from her mother. Apparently the mom has to practically harm the child herself or the child has to has a near death experience before the courts will give custody over to the daddy. we need help. he feels trapped by this woman. Whatever happened to "in the best interest of the child?"
If nothing else, thank you for listening.
If nothing else, thank you for listening.