Hi,
My goodness, I don't know where to even start with this whole mess. I am a father of two beautiful little girls 2 & 4. My ex (not married to) and I lived together for years. We lived in GA, she went to visit family in NJ with my kids and never came back, left everything here! I went up there for months to work things out. I was even willing to move there with them. I found out a lot of things she was doing. I got fed up and left and came back to GA to file for custody of the kids.
To anyone who is starting out, this process TAKES FOREVER!! And it is like toture! I never knew how much a Bio-Father doesn't have rights to. It has been 5 months since I have seen my little girls. For 1 month I had ZERO contact with them! She just kept delaying the process, just because she could.
We just went to medation and it was more like a car sales meeting then working things out. I'm told that even with my evidence I only have a 40% chance of winning?
I have a job, a home that has THEIR ROOMS in it, a nice yard in a good community. She has moved them to her mothers home, working as a crossing guard, making less then $300 a month, shoved her and my two kids in 1 room (12x10), and at best the house should be condemed! Even with all that, not including the sex things I have found out, I still am being told by my lawer that I only have a 40% chance! I don't get it.
The deal, I'm told by my lawyer, is a good one. But for me I just don't think it is becuase it isn't enough time! I'm going to miss out on so much (parent teacher confrences, little leagues, dances, etc.) and that is killing me. I'm very angry with mom because of what she has done. My 4 yr old keeps asking me when she is coming back to GA. I want to have an answer but I just don't know.
At medation, I asked for time to think about what the deal was ( 8 weeks in the summer, every other holiday, 1 break(fall, spring), every other weekend). I just don't think its enough. I want to fight but I don't want to lose. I'm thinking I may have to move to NJ but really don't want to. I just can't see why I would not be given primary custody of the childern. I just don't want to say later "what if". Am I wrong? I feel i'm doing what is best for the kids and she is just being selfish. I seem to be always hitting a wall that I have to jump over or through.
Should I take the deal? Should I fight? PEOPLE I NEED HELP!!!
Thanks
LOVING AND MISSING MY KIDS DAD IN GA
My goodness, I don't know where to even start with this whole mess. I am a father of two beautiful little girls 2 & 4. My ex (not married to) and I lived together for years. We lived in GA, she went to visit family in NJ with my kids and never came back, left everything here! I went up there for months to work things out. I was even willing to move there with them. I found out a lot of things she was doing. I got fed up and left and came back to GA to file for custody of the kids.
To anyone who is starting out, this process TAKES FOREVER!! And it is like toture! I never knew how much a Bio-Father doesn't have rights to. It has been 5 months since I have seen my little girls. For 1 month I had ZERO contact with them! She just kept delaying the process, just because she could.
We just went to medation and it was more like a car sales meeting then working things out. I'm told that even with my evidence I only have a 40% chance of winning?
I have a job, a home that has THEIR ROOMS in it, a nice yard in a good community. She has moved them to her mothers home, working as a crossing guard, making less then $300 a month, shoved her and my two kids in 1 room (12x10), and at best the house should be condemed! Even with all that, not including the sex things I have found out, I still am being told by my lawer that I only have a 40% chance! I don't get it.
The deal, I'm told by my lawyer, is a good one. But for me I just don't think it is becuase it isn't enough time! I'm going to miss out on so much (parent teacher confrences, little leagues, dances, etc.) and that is killing me. I'm very angry with mom because of what she has done. My 4 yr old keeps asking me when she is coming back to GA. I want to have an answer but I just don't know.
At medation, I asked for time to think about what the deal was ( 8 weeks in the summer, every other holiday, 1 break(fall, spring), every other weekend). I just don't think its enough. I want to fight but I don't want to lose. I'm thinking I may have to move to NJ but really don't want to. I just can't see why I would not be given primary custody of the childern. I just don't want to say later "what if". Am I wrong? I feel i'm doing what is best for the kids and she is just being selfish. I seem to be always hitting a wall that I have to jump over or through.
Should I take the deal? Should I fight? PEOPLE I NEED HELP!!!
Thanks
LOVING AND MISSING MY KIDS DAD IN GA