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Sorry mixbag for my confusion I just have seen where you got that information from, but the allegation was just that an allegation, the commissioner found my explanation satisfactory.  At one time I used to travel down during the week and stop with a friend who runs a motel, but the caveat is I always went there by myself to look for jobs and I had no visitation also used it as a base for mailing etc, I stopped with my friend who lives not at the motel but in an apartment of their own.  The kids have never stopped in any motel with me without purpose such as in the Dells Water parks and on one occasion we had to stop near their school so they could attend a special event.  Other than that the allegation would be untrue.  The good thing of course is I always video and take pictures of every visitation I have, so you can pick any day and I can tell you and demonstrate what we (me and the kids) were doing, what happened when I picked the kids up, and what happened when I dropped them off.  I can allow you to see more detail of the case that explain some of the possible special and unique problems I may have that is if you like watching 'depositions' online, I believe I would have to find a more secure means for you to be able to get those links and not relay those links on a public forum.  If you are interested let me know how this can be achieved.

Thanks for your response mix bag , but I still don't follow the, 'I too would wonder or be concerned about the fact that you were in a hotel during your week.....did I read that right?', where did you get that from ?

I am sorry Mixed bag you may have misunderstood something, my former spouse has filed for a change of placement on the 19th.  Previously the GAL would prevent and fight for motions to be admitted under the 5 day rule, I would object she would file again and so on and so forth, until somebody missed the deadline.  Then she would get it changed by default to benefit the GAL, the attorney I had at the time just simply would not object, and basically told me.  'Don't bother wait until the children are 18', and he further explained that he talked with the GAL and they stated that they were 'not sure I would do to her what she was doing to me', so much for clarifying the way the legal system works.

1	05-20-2011	Notice of assignment of judge	Evenson, James
2	05-19-2011	Notice of motion, motion
Additional Text:             to Change: Physcial Placement
3	05-19-2011	Transcript
Additional Text:             10/21/08 Hearing
4	05-19-2011	Transcript
Additional Text:             11/19/07 Hearing
5	05-19-2011	Transcript
Additional Text:             4/8/09 Hearing

I have NOT filed a motion someone else HAS I was waiting for the judicial transfer and paperwork, and I understand that there is a summons with my name on it, so I await the summons service to see what it is.  It could also be a TRO not sure until I see it

http://wcca.wicourts.gov/caseDetails.do;jsessionid=51BDCD242F3E78E2241745CFCED87F19.render6?caseNo=2011FA000183&countyNo=56&cacheId=0021C4550038824B6F984648FFA80EDA&recordCount=7&offset=0#party_2

Thanks.

Thanks all the information was very helpful. 

Ok So I turned up tonight waited, got myself a cup of coffee from macdonalds where the pickup is, kept my receipt and cup.  However from experience I did also phone the police department got an officer to take a report confirm my presence and of course cite the report with number.  While I do understand this procedure as I have 64 missed placement reports of a similar nature which were dismissed previously as hearsay.  I have as a note found the courts to be a little unfriendly when you try to use them as evidence, so where I am from you have to also request or subpoena either the person who sold you the item or the reporting officer to testify as to the report or receipts veracity.  Otherwise the court will reject it as hearsay and not accept the receipt or report as authenticated or alternatively tell you to get a lawyer to validate your claim.  So in the meanwhile I note that there is a notice filed today for change of placement from the former spouse and a motion.  SO it would seem as I have stated before that I am in the death throws of losing contact with the children.  I have in no way given up, but as I have stated the attorneys and lawyers along with the judge seem to construct a scenario where they can orchestrate a parendectomy by default, by simply wearing you down and out money you.   So Monday I file my motion and we will see what happens, for those interested I will update this thread as I go along.

Thanks   

Thank you all for responding it is a lonely place to be, but like many of us the hardest part of course is maintaining the mechanical side of all this B.S. and trying to keep the emotional, financial and personal interests out of it.

I did write on OFW the following prior to the commentary.  I do this so that perhaps others can learn from the error in the message pointed out from a member in the use of words.   Certainly I have many of these on family wizard going back to 2007.

Andrew xxxxxx
To:	XXXXXXXXXXXXXX	(first view:                                                                                       never)
Sent:	05/15/11 02:55PM
Subject:	Hi I have not heard from you
Message:	Dear XXXX,      I have left a reasonable number of messages on your phone, as well as communication through this program Family Wizard to at least communicate with me and let me know what is going on and what are your intentions. I have not seen the children as scheduled in the court order by actions you have brought and I feel you are frustrating any attempt to see the children. You appear to be using whatever means are possible, even wasting state resources on issues that do not exist or certainly are not of my creation. I also believe these are costly and ultimately detrimental to the best interests of the children.      I would appreciate at the very least that you let me know either by email on this program or by phone, if I am to get the children this coming weekend as scheduled. There are no national holidays or recognized events that you need to attend with the children that would serve as an excuse and I do not believe there are any special events that directly concern the children. So they will be free to spend the time visiting with me unhindered.      My main concern is that you please do notify me that you intend to continue withholding the children in order that I am able to conserve my scarce resources both in gas and finances to serve other purposes. I am stating this to avoid the financial problems it creates through lack of communication and more importantly to avoid costs. Where the expenditure becomes an unnecessary burden that serves no one. Thank you

So that unfortunately is the message I wrote prior to the last posts in offering advice, for me the scary part of all this is the whole system seems to be geared towards turning all parenting and the processes involved into money and rules for being a parent.  Divorced parents today and tomorrow every parent who decides to have kids, scary thoughts about the future.

The other item I forgot to request advice on how to approach is, at the moment the former spouse is not communicating.  The court ordered the continued use of an online program called family wizard.  I can however write emails through this but they are usually are never responded to and certainly anything that is relevant in timely manner or is responded to after the fact or in as short a time as to make it impossible to attend an appointment or respond before the action is taken.

But my current dilemma is how if at all possible is it for me to find out if she intends to withhold the children, I have the standard B.S. where everyone she has contact with is poisoned in terms of their belief.  And there is no one to act as mediator to find out her intentions.  I have asked of her if she wants to keep the children again this weekend by phone, and by email, are there any resources I can use.  I am constantly of course checking to see whether she has any TRO's in effect, in which case I would automatically be in criminal contempt, so I am not saying I am paranoid, I am just stating a disposition to the problem that is overly cautious.   The other thing of course is to try and avoid spending gas traveling to the pick up point and wasting 6 hours plus the time it takes to request a police report, which sometimes I can wait till 9 or 10 in the evening depending on how busy the police department is.

Thanks

Unfortunately as I have stated before the school is not doable I now live 100 miles away, (it i the only way I found to stop her stalking my house on the weekends I have visitation.) If the children are outside in the garden playing she will watch and report any infraction of my parenting.  She can make anything up she likes and the police will always come to the door to investigate.  So, apart from that I got on great with the school and they knew exactly what was going on, but the Judge's order as I have previously stated leaves all decisions regarding schooling with the former spouse.  I understand this is a broad statement and it has been used by the former spouse to suggest it also means little if no contact with the school.  With the contract words being so broad and not specific, it will be difficult to argue it's intent, but the Judge crafted the order and it has some interesting twists but unfortunately not in my favor.  I must for example pick up the children on Xmas day at 1.00 p.m. then return them to their mothers house at 10.00 p.m. and then pick them up on the same day at 10.p.m. to continue the visitation.  Similarly for Thanksgiving, I pick them up on thanksgiving day at 6. p.m.  I thought that was what the clarification hearing was about, but unfortunately it turned out to be an interesting whatever mommy wants apart from the change of venue.

I am awaiting her next denial, which means I file a contempt order for issuing the TRO to obtain a missed placement legally, i.e. constructive using the law, then missed placement by not having the children present and available and the same again.  I will try to bring in the previous missed placements as exhibits to demonstrate her uncooperative nature but it is really a long shot the judge won't just start a new set of fresh start records etc.  But I will do my best, and thanks.

I understand the motion process and have tried it myself, unfortunately I have been completely unsuccessful in getting a judge to rule favorably, other than stretch out the cases to long periods.  If you can read the text of the court record and interpret them for what they are here is the link so that you can see what has been done. 

http://wcca.wicourts.gov/courtRecordEvents.xsl;jsessionid=A6EBB0480D3B05DAF6A165556C8FEDB4.render6?caseNo=2004FA000054&countyNo=14&cacheId=B4DA43208611D78FB726C5D966299944&recordCount=10&offset=9&linkOnlyToForm=false&sortDirection=DESC

At the moment and my last motion was to change the venue to get rid of the GAL who has been instrumental in helping to keep the kids away and creating problems, also get it into a court that may be more helpful in resolving problems and not have the same people who rule in favor of their own interests.  I am basically trying to find a court that will rule on it's own orders, hopefully this one will and will follow through, as this is basically my last shot.  For example if you do read the link, you will see I can get an agreement in court but to enforce anything you have to use an attorney or file yourself as you have suggested.  Where I am from, they have basically told me they have a policy where they will not prosecute mothers nor will they force children to take their visitation.  I have even sat down in the middle of the police station playing with the children, the mother states to the children that they should not go with daddy. And the policemen is telling me that as long as she does not tell me that I cannot take the children, she is well within her rights. Which of course is ridiculous but it is what it is.  I have about 60 police reports of missed visitation and about 50 personally documented accounts.  So the procedure I am familiar with is I file a motion for enforcement, the Judges around here will order mediation.  Mediation is unsuccessful or abrogated and the judge will take a hearing, he appoints a GAL, and then we go round the merry go round.  However I am over cautious as the former spouse is capable of anything, she has been teaching the kids to say I touch them in their private areas, and also has created plausible scenarios by damaging the children by pinching them or marking them, or on one occasion even hurting my son's penis, to create a plausible scenario of sexual abuse.  Fortunately for me the story was unfounded but cost me almost 6 months without seeing the children.  There are other psychological factors involved I am sure, but I am trying to simplify a complicated situation and just simply get the kids on my visitation without hindrance.   

Thank you for posting this it is very informative, but I still find the battery of tests disturbing especially those psychological practitioners who still use the MILLON, they all appear to have a character or human stereotype intent.  After all anyone who takes these tests is going to have a leaning in favor of one vice, disorder or the other.  More disconcerting is what is to be added to the DSM in 2013, where embarrassment and shyness are rumored to be receiving a subcode.  Yet even more frightening is the future application of these tests to determine anything, especially in the hands of state officials with quota's and a living to earn. 

Visitation is weekends, 2 weekends then miss one, then two weekends.  Only certain holiday placements are allowed to displace those.

School, no, the judge ordered that I have nothing to do with the children's schooling.

Previously I asked for visitation at a police station as a mid point, but the judge ordered I pick up the children and return them.  The distance is 112 miles.

I was offered shared custody at one point on a more equal placement if I moved to where the former spouse moved to, but the FP stated that if I moved there she would move away, so it was pointless and even then she stated that she would not agree to any placement.

Last hearing was to adjustment and clarify holiday schedules two weeks ago.  During those weeks she had taken out a TRO because she wanted Easter weekend, so I was to miss my weekends with the children because of the TRO which was dismissed.  This has been the pattern since, she will now if she behaves as she has done before go to a different agency and claim child abuse and get them to roll the ball for her probe the crap out of the children and place more psychiatric help or therapy for them, I have not seen the children in over 5 weeks now.

Last trial to address this issue was september last year, as a result of that the attorneys and psychs took every last penny I had including the house.  I did also lose my job over the court events and the court schedule but especially due to the sexual abuse allegations, although cleared of any wrong doing, my work in a college was in jeapordy, as she had a direct line to the president for all the BS.