My ex-wife informed me she is getting married (in Nov.) and moving out of the state of FL to NY. Her "rich" (sugar daddy) man paid for an attorney and served me with a notice of intent to relocate with child. We have a 9 year old son. I don't have the funds for an attorney so I've been spending a LOT of time reading on the internet.
Her intent to relocate states
"The step-father's financial situation will allow the mother to concentrate all of her time on the minor child, Name and assist him with his emotional and educational development without concern for being employed and the schooling system is far more superior in NY than he currently attends". <~~~~ which is a B rated school
She has already quit her part time job.
To inform you as my son completed the 3rd grade and he has been absent 55 times and tardy 88 times. Car rider one mile from school. Not very good in my opinion. I raise a step-daughter that went from ADD when I met her 6 years ago to an honor roll student now. I did file an objection to the relocation. I'm married stable and my wife has been in his life as far back as my son can remember. We have been in his life as much as my ex will allow us. She is always in contempt (which we will be going to mediation in 3 week for) and sense the relocation thing popped up a few months ago my son and my relationship I feel like is taking a beating. When he is with me everything seems to be fine but when he is with his mom it's like I'm talking to someone else's kid. Nearly every conversation with my son is monitored/speaker. He always has something else (fun) to do on my weekend and his mom schedules events on my time, i.e. her daughters bday party and her wedding (coming up in Nov.) just to name two. I didn't schedule my wedding on her weekend. She always bad mouths me in front of my son. Cursing and yelling. Telling me he don't like me, don't like my house, I never do anything with him, he would rather her bfriend be his dad and not you (fyi, she has said the same thing about the last couple of boyfriends too, she's had a few). All kinds of Crazy things I know are not true, I think she is trying every effort to program him. He and I have a Great relationship at my house. She is programming him in a major scale and I feel hurt. It's getting so bad I'm now wondering if she's fit enough to raise him. I have been keeping a very good journal for the past 5 ½ years. I have almost everything documented!! From the 19 moves in 8 years to the 82 "documented" accounts of denied visitation, to the 57 "documented" denied phone calls (I know the phone calls are probably triple that but that is documented) to the denied summer visitations. I could go on and on!
She also sent me a motion for social investigation of the minor child. I believe that is why she has been programming him so much lately. Trying to get him to say he don't like me and want to move to NY in the "Big House" as she put it. In fact she told him it's my fault if they can't move up there into the "Big House".
I've been doing a lot of reading about the parenting plan. I think it would be in my son's best interest if I spent more time in his live (he needs the stability), I currently have every other weekend and any time in between that we agree upon which is usually an No from her. I like the idea of 7 day rotation, Friday to Friday. I'm thinking about presenting this to her in mediation, which I know what she will say about that. Absolutely NOT!!
My Question:
How do I go about going from my every other weekend visitation into the 50/50 parenting plan?
Do I need to serve her with a motion of some sort? What are my chances in FL?
Do I bring it up in (contempt) mediation that I want the 50/50?
Do I have to pay half for the "social investigation" which she is requesting?
She has an attorney I don't. All I want to do is see my son more and be a part of his life. He needs it!
Also, I have witness to a lot of the bashing and cursing me she dose to me in front of my son.
Will I be able to use them anywhere? Will they help my case for the parenting plan?
Thanks for all advice!!
Her intent to relocate states
"The step-father's financial situation will allow the mother to concentrate all of her time on the minor child, Name and assist him with his emotional and educational development without concern for being employed and the schooling system is far more superior in NY than he currently attends". <~~~~ which is a B rated school
She has already quit her part time job.
To inform you as my son completed the 3rd grade and he has been absent 55 times and tardy 88 times. Car rider one mile from school. Not very good in my opinion. I raise a step-daughter that went from ADD when I met her 6 years ago to an honor roll student now. I did file an objection to the relocation. I'm married stable and my wife has been in his life as far back as my son can remember. We have been in his life as much as my ex will allow us. She is always in contempt (which we will be going to mediation in 3 week for) and sense the relocation thing popped up a few months ago my son and my relationship I feel like is taking a beating. When he is with me everything seems to be fine but when he is with his mom it's like I'm talking to someone else's kid. Nearly every conversation with my son is monitored/speaker. He always has something else (fun) to do on my weekend and his mom schedules events on my time, i.e. her daughters bday party and her wedding (coming up in Nov.) just to name two. I didn't schedule my wedding on her weekend. She always bad mouths me in front of my son. Cursing and yelling. Telling me he don't like me, don't like my house, I never do anything with him, he would rather her bfriend be his dad and not you (fyi, she has said the same thing about the last couple of boyfriends too, she's had a few). All kinds of Crazy things I know are not true, I think she is trying every effort to program him. He and I have a Great relationship at my house. She is programming him in a major scale and I feel hurt. It's getting so bad I'm now wondering if she's fit enough to raise him. I have been keeping a very good journal for the past 5 ½ years. I have almost everything documented!! From the 19 moves in 8 years to the 82 "documented" accounts of denied visitation, to the 57 "documented" denied phone calls (I know the phone calls are probably triple that but that is documented) to the denied summer visitations. I could go on and on!
She also sent me a motion for social investigation of the minor child. I believe that is why she has been programming him so much lately. Trying to get him to say he don't like me and want to move to NY in the "Big House" as she put it. In fact she told him it's my fault if they can't move up there into the "Big House".
I've been doing a lot of reading about the parenting plan. I think it would be in my son's best interest if I spent more time in his live (he needs the stability), I currently have every other weekend and any time in between that we agree upon which is usually an No from her. I like the idea of 7 day rotation, Friday to Friday. I'm thinking about presenting this to her in mediation, which I know what she will say about that. Absolutely NOT!!
My Question:
How do I go about going from my every other weekend visitation into the 50/50 parenting plan?
Do I need to serve her with a motion of some sort? What are my chances in FL?
Do I bring it up in (contempt) mediation that I want the 50/50?
Do I have to pay half for the "social investigation" which she is requesting?
She has an attorney I don't. All I want to do is see my son more and be a part of his life. He needs it!
Also, I have witness to a lot of the bashing and cursing me she dose to me in front of my son.
Will I be able to use them anywhere? Will they help my case for the parenting plan?
Thanks for all advice!!