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BF's case is in Salem MA in Essex County!  

And you are correct on that!  She will stop the child from going, just be prepare yourself and your family mentally for that.  Sounds just like my BF's X.  CONTROL, CONTROL, CONTROL!!!!  

AMEN!

What county in MA?  Keep filing the denial of visitation letters every single time she denys.  Try and get a police report stating you have custody at this time and she is denying it.  It does work!  X is still trying to deny visits but with the transfers at the Police station, reports are filed right then an there.  Document everything.....it's exhausting...but it pays off in the long run.  Keep us posted.

I printed this out and giving this to BF, he's going thru a major alienation campain right now.  His 12 y/o just called and said she's not going tomorrow and she's never going again.  This is the girl who Thursday night was begging him to rescue them from their mother.  Court on Monday, we'll see what happens then.  Thank you for your letter, I seriously thought this would be the breaking point for him to walk away.  Reading that, he now realizes that he has to step it up, for his kids well being.  

My BF is going thru the same thing....4 kids 6-15....msg from the X because she wants the kids to go to her sisters instead of with their father on his time.  Now don't get me wrong, X is uncooperative, has a contempt on denial of visitation, 30 day sentance hanging over her head, and will tell whoever listens that "It's all his fault!" She tells the children everything about the courts, she interfers with his visitations, not only her, her older children and friends and family.

"Why can't the kids make the decision weather they want to go with you or not. Now that's forcing them, that's forcing the issue on them. That's not right and not fair to them.  That's not being a father, and that's not cooperating either. talk about me cooperating oldest is gonna be upset cuz she can't go, that's not fair to her. Because of what you want, your gonna destroy them, that's not fair, they want to spend time with their aunt. the only time they can do that is on the weekend, and I'm not taking them down their at 8pm at night, after your visit, and I have to go back and get them the next day that's not fair.

Now he has tues & thurs 5-7pm and sat 10-8p never gets them at 10 it's 12.  Police station drop/pick-up, which bites into his time, X detains him with the verbal abuse and so does her daughter and no one seems to care!  This is what his kids are up against.  Not only an alienating BM but her biodaughter as well, all four of his children are under their control.

His X would rather see him, just pay support and abandon the kids.  The kids enjoy spending time with Dad, they all talk at once...they have fun, but is worth it cuz when they get home they have to deal with the spanish inquisition/interrogation from X and her daughter.  She's on the alienation campaign, read Divorce Poision it's helping but to spend  less than 2 hrs with them on tues/thurs, and defending yourself against everything that is being said by X and trying to say it without badmouthing or spreading your own poision is emotionally hard.

Sorry sore subject, back to court again for this on Monday too!

If you have your docket number go to the court and take a look thru the file, copy anything you need (25 cents per).  I know you can do this in Salem (essex cty).

They should throw away the key!  Can't believe (well yes I can) that a BM would put her kids thru 5 years of this.  And her BF is a cop!  Nice mix. A court order is a court order and no one is above the law.

BF does the pick-ups at the Police Station as well, but the X will hold open the passanger door, rage at him over the children, or will hold onto the car, and he keeps repeating, can we go now?  It usually ends up with the police intervening (sp?)

Boy.....can I relate to this.....but the VM's we (BF & I) have are much, MUCH nastier.....pretty much same subjects too....