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Minicoopsmom,

Why is it that we find this stuff out at the last minute? I have had an eye out for bill info and today is the first I've heard anything! I forwarded your post to 'Glenn Sacks' and asked that he support us. (But it is really short notice!)

Since your post is an exact quote of a post @ wacivilrightscounsil are you one in the same poster? Just curious. Going to get busy sending emails now, hoping it's not too late!

Dez

The OP contains the date, county and name of the case. You can look it up yourself pretty easy.

Your thread title is misleading. I don't see how it could possibly be a violation of the court order when the NCP is just exercising their visitation as ordered. (Dates, times, etc.)  

As a NCP myself, I value each and every minute I have with my child. The only way the CP is going to infringe on my time with my child is by offering compensatory time...period.

You are the CP and already have the children the majority of the time. Consider yourself very lucky.

Greetings Soc,

It's been awhile since I've sought your advice, hope you're doing well.

I want to find out what a certain superior court judge feels about a couple issues.

What would be the best way to go about this task?

Regards,

Dez

DD,

You sound like you have a pretty good handle on the 'pro se' thing. Bravo! It's not easy by any stretch.

Reading your posts, and figuring out the abbreviations got me to thinking. It would probably make Soc's life a lot simpler if we had a glossary of acceptable terms and abbreviations to post here. Just a thought. What do you think? Soc?

Good luck with your case.

Greetings Soc,

My son is currently in the state of WA where I reside. They (CP and my son) are staying in a motel for the next 5-7 days here in state, and I want to visit my son! (He was the one who called me to wish me a happy father's day.)

They are in a motel, I have the room number from my son, Mom won't let me see him.

Questions:

1. Can I just drive up there and get a hug & some kisses?

2. Can she prevent me from seeing my son because it's not in the court ordered visitation plan?

Damn, she already got to move him 3K miles away! What do you think I should do? I really want to see my boy...it's been 20 months already!

Help Soc! And thanks...'cause I know you're good!

Thank You!

The stepdad has done a bunch of stuff to my boy. His pet move used to be to turn on all the cold water when my son was in the shower as to scald to him...just not enough to permantly injure him, or leave scars.

The mom is just hanging in there for the money. She has apoligized to my son for ever marrying the guy, but is the type that has never worked for a living, just living on child support in the past years. So it's basically a money issue, because she sold her house here and has no place else to go.

She has two daughters from two different dads that are now grown and emancipated. I am the third dad now, and the only source of free income to her besides the new hubby.

Your questions:

"Do you have any credible evidence of the abuse? Right now it's just your word against the other parent's.

Is there some way you can get the child to a therapist of your choosing in that jurisdiction where he lives now."

First question...Recorded phone conversations w/sons consent stating then same.

Second question...no way. I would need the cp's cooperation, and that aint going to happen.

Questions:

#1. Is there an agency in VA that I can contact that would check on and interview my son re these issues that you know of?

#2. Is my sons own testimony to good enough for the courts?

#3. What would it take to have the court of jurisdiction (My county) order his and mom's return to answer to this situation in front of a judge? Especially since the court already granted the move, but no final order yet.

Thanks again Soc, your advice is worth it's weight in gold friend.

Greetings Soc,

Please consider 'substantial change' while reading.

Son is 11 years of age, moved away August 2004, by the CP.

Since my son was moved away, (left coast to right coast)he has struggled in school with his grades and had discipline problems as well, which have resulted with several 'In school suspensions' and at least one 'out of school' suspension. He still hates his school after two years of attendance.

His stepfather does not even like him let alone love him. He treats my son very poorly. My son says the stepdad has a very bad temper and hits walls and slams doors all the time in anger. He broke my son's door off the hinges a while back.

Last year my son was in counseling seeking help with his poor adjustment to the new invironment, and his behaviour problems. He is still depressed and is not getting any help with it.

The CP's new marriage was basically on the rocks 3 months into it with them in marriage counseling at that point. It continues to be in turmoil, creating a very unhappy homelife for my son. Cp actually sleeps in my son's bedroom most of the time the husband is home. They do get some relief when he is traveling for work a few days each week.

My question is:

Would these circumstances and living conditions be considered enough of a substantial change for me to request custody?

If yes, what would be the next step? Thank you.

Greetings Soc,

Thank you for your reply.

Law is very complicated...and to think now that I could have made that motion verbally...is tearing me up inside. Even 18 months after the fact.

I think the motion to retrain the move was all I needed to stop it, and then I guess we would have had a full hearing on the matter.

My son is almost 11 yo. We have never had a final order on anything, only Temp. orders.

Questions:

1. When if ever, are 'Parenting Plans' made final?

2. Since all orders re this case have been made in WA state,(I still reside in WA state) and CP and son are in VA, could CP petition for a change of venue and get the case moved there?

3. If #2 is yes, what if any, would be the best basic argument to keep jurisdiction here?

Dez