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[hopefully will go a long way]

I suggest approaching the court for CONFIRMATION that it is BEST for the child for the parents to collaborate in choosing and utilizing professional counseling services. 

This is at the very essence of "joint" arrangements and hopefully will go a long way in removing all the adverserial pent-up "golden uterus" philosophies in all matters concerning the child. 

Hey Dad  !  Fathers for Equal Rights (or fathers4kids) in Texas should be an excellent resource for information and perhaps legal assistance.  I think there are chapters in Dallas (214-953-2233), Ft Worth, Houston and maybe San Anton.  Use google or another search engine. 

The archive files on this site provide a wealth of information as well.  Much, if not all of that site has originated from ordinary folks that have been there and done that.   

It is important for Texas to maintain jurisdiction of all issues concerning your children as well as you and the mother.  That will be case as long as you remain a resident.  You should never file or respond to another state's legal action concerning the children. 

Hope you continue to post on this site.  Best to you and the boys and the mother.  Hang in there !!!

You many want to consider a different approach to locking children to a particular school district both for now and in the future. 

Regardless of the custody status think about the children residing within 25 miles of your physical location.

"crickets" is probably not a good sign for the child.

Please consider that you being named on the child's birth certificate (or any other official document) is of most importance. 

It is also important if you are married (or not) to this person like MB asked.

Next in importance is protecting the child especially from being removed from your and child's state of residence as well as your nuturing care.

Your wife can file against you up north. Please note that I did not say "mother" because she is not functioning as a parent.   You are !!

I also strongly suggest you should NOT tell this person what you are planning do to. Just do it.  Also.  We know you understand it is important to have a job in order to maintain your child and yourself but do not let the status of your green card be the determining factor in providing for your child.  Get a new wife or a new job whatever it takes.

Your local court house MAY help you file for "Temporary Custody" and Restraining anyone from relocating the child.  At the same time your Immigration office/consolate may be helpful but not knowledgeable with issues concerning custody of children.

Just so you know my children were taken "up north".  I believe you will NOW have rights .......... best to you and your child !!!! 

Thanks.  I had made those assumptions along with the fact that the mother can not be contacted because NO ONE REALLY KNOWS WHERE SHE IS LOCATED.  Besides, it is not the father's responsibility to find her.  At the same time it is responsibilty of the entire system to PROTECT this child.  From what has been shared / posted the wife/mother has abandoned the child and the father and should be restrained in all matters. 

Under the circumstances it MAY be possible in Georgia to file an Emergency Ex-parte (without notice) petition for temporary custody naming the Ga. father and the adult niece (in Florida) as the only responsible parties able to make decisions (ie residency, education, etc).  for the minor child.  Social Security. retirement. veteran benefits should be protected for this child's benefit. 

This custody document should allow the child's FL residency and therefore meet FL standards.  Perhaps the Ga. court where the father resides has a family law division that could assist in this matter.  It appears this child is headed for the foster care system absent family inteference and some sort of legal action.

Really hope for the assistance of this child.

And .........

Mrs. U .... thanks for posting and reaching out.

Tigger gave you some very very good advice and many others will also hold out hope for you.

Best to you !!

I probably should not let this cat out of the bag. 

Of course these filings with the court are a matter of public record.   If you happen to know of a family with a joint arrangement  then obtain a copy of such documents from the court (authored by attys) and use as a model for your documents.

Of course you know your Ex best but, like Justabovewater, I suggest you proceed with caution and get a clear definition of "next summer".  For example, she may have told you on June 20 and the official 1st day of summer is June 21 so to her "next summer" is NOW and gee whiz golly since you did not complain thought you were supportive of the relocation so she moved with the kids on July 25 ...  have a nice life. 

I'm remembering a Contempt hearing for Denial of Visitation.  In a previous hearing she lied and told the court she never knew when I was going to show up (850 miles) even though I showed on time every time for a period of months.  Anyway, the court ordered me to provide "three days" written notice via certified mail for every court orderd date.  At the next hearing 6 months (or more) later the judge said to her that he had documented proof that I had complied with the court and asked her "why are you not allowing this father visit his kids ? "  Her response ... drum roll please ... "judge your order said three days written notice and most the time I got four days notice".  The judge just lowered his head and dismissed the motion ... and that was that. 

Maybe more later ... it gets much worse.   Wait much much much worse.