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Only Libertarians believe that goverment is way too involved in all this.  They believe court orders should only happen if necessary, and that BOTH parents are EQUALLY important to the well being of children.

You may wish to post this on Socs board, but all your wife has to do really is ask the current county to modify the order to guideline support.

Here is a link:
http://www.courtinfo.ca.gov/forms/documents/fl390.pdf

You should immediately contact them and tell them that you cover the child.  There is no reason for you to be in trouble if you didn't know what she did!

Did she ask you to drop the insurance in writing?  If you drop it, you will be in trouble with the court that ordered you to have coverage.  She cannot just tell you to drop it, the court must order it!

You need to cover yourself in case kidcare tries to get their money back from YOU.

(Hi Kat!!!)

The order is clear if it says that support stops once the child turns 18.  Keep in mind though that even if junior turned 18 on the 1st of the month, a full month of support must be paid.  You may consider sending a copy of the court order with it, highlighting the spot where it says 18, just to grind it in a little!

Congrats!

1.  What state are you in?

2.  How old is the child?

3.  What idiotic judge decided to let a minor "decide" where to live?  If the same minor's parents weren't divorced, a judge wouldn't let her "decide" where to live!  

4.  I agree with the poster who mentioned all those unrelated boys and men in the same house as a teenage girl.  Could be a problem.  Not to mention there are a few southern states that still don't look to kindly on living together instead of a married couple.

5.  His marriage is of no relevance to this issue, whether this goes to court or not.

6.  If these were your kids, you'd be whining too, since apparently the child has decided she likes mom more.  How would it feel if your two kids decided they liked mom more, and left you?  How would you like their step-dad taking your place?

7.  Keep in mind, you are not this childs parent.  Do your best to stay out of it, especially if this goes to court.

8.  Also keep in mind that if he has another support order against him, your support order will be based on income minus that support order.  

9.  No agreement, written and notarized or verbal will hold up in court.  Only a court order holds up in court.

> Next year our daughter will be getting
>her license, then she will want a car.  I don't know how I'm
>going to afford to get her a car and insurance.  It's going to
>be expensive!
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She should get a job, just like thousands and thousands of other kids do.  It teaches character, and appreciation.  

Are you talking about SSDI?  A work plan?  A plan you pay for out of your pocket?

When he filles out the forms for SSDI, there is a spot for him to state that he has a child.  SSDI will take the support from his check and send him what's left.

Other disability plans are just like income.

I've never been in court in my life except to serve jury duty.

Do you think it's fair when women collect welfare when they have kids?  If so, why not men.

Finally, our poster is not here to elaborate on her situation.  No reason to continue without more info from our poster.

There is a difference between pension plans an employee has no choice but to pay because it is taken from their check and payments an employee makes on his/her own.  If an employee has no choice, it is usually deducted from income just like taxes.  Optional plans are not considered mandatory and the money is considered when factoring support.

I don't know if our poster works or not, but it appears not.  She's got a few teenagers and she's still relying on her parents, welfare, food kitchens, etc., for support, and her ex.  Why is her ex the only deadbeat?  When does she have to start being an adult and keeping up her legal and moral end of financially supporting the kids?  When do her parents get off the hook for helping to support her?  

You mention that your ex gets welfare.  Somehow society views it as a needs based issue if it is a woman, but a deadbeat issue if it is a man getting welfare.  Well, personally I don't want to support any able bodied adult or their kids.

I didn't reply to this post to argue, but I'm tired of the double standard.  Two people created the child, to call one a deadbeat when neither are supporting their kids is insanity.  To call only men deadbeats when women are much less likely to financially support their kids is plain wrong.  No matter how much money society tries to throw at supporting kids, no amount of money is going to fix what is wrong when once sex is constantly "awarded" the sole caretaker and the other is deemed the visitor (if he's lucky) and the payor.