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I believe this guy needs a chance. Let's not forget that mom took the baby 1000 miles away. How is he supposed to develop a relationship with his child in such a situation? And like the above post asks, what do you say over the phone to an infant? My guess is that his heart aches for this child, but contact has been made impossible.

There are some mean-spirited posts above that automatically assume this guy is a loser drug abuser. None of us know that...not even mom. I agree that a drug test might be in order. But I believe mom should agree to it as well. After all, she found him attractive enough to copulate with him. Pleeeze. Has she never taken a single puff? Lots of kids do drugs, but most go on to be stable adults.

My experience is that many GALs are worthless, inexperienced and completely unqualified. So what kind of evaluation do you purchase? And what end does jumping through all the hoops accomplish? Perhaps mom and a friend should pay a visit to his home. If it checks out, then both should submit to drug tests. And if either of them are currently using, then this is a complete waste of time. If all is clean, then he deserves a complete unhindered relationship with his dad. And, yes, it is playing God to prevent this relationship. Lastly, we should all remember, in some states the person who leaves the state is the one who picks up the travel tab for visitation. Rightly so I believe.

I have a couple of suggestions that might help. Since you are from Texas, you can get some low-cost legal advice at TFER (Texas Fathers for Equal Rights):

http://www.fathers4kids.com/html/FER.htm

The above link is for the Dallas area. You pay a small fee for the year, and you consult with as many attorneys as you like. Get lots of ideas. Find one that cares. You can do much of the legwork yourself. They will help you draft motions, etc..  But do not walk into the court alone (Pro Se). On the big day, have your atty there.

Further, I would not go to your date with the AG unrepresented. They are not your friends, and do not expect a shred of fairness from them. See if your new legal representative can help you put this date off. This is definitely not the venue you want. See if you can get the arrears hearing set along with a "motion to modify." The modification changes the terms of the original decree. (Reduce your support, change of custody...or just get a visitation schdule that you can plan around). At this hearing, you can propose a payment plan for your arrears

If you can get this date postponed / continued, and you get a motion to modify set, you for sure can get her address through discovery. Subpoena her address from whomever. For sure, the AG's office has the address, because they know where to send her check.  In Texas you can make all of this happen within say, 6 weeks, unless you are going for a change of custody.

If you do not all out go for custody as described above in the previous post (which for sure, will cost an enormous sum of money), you can at least get a standard visitation schedule that is enforceable. Of course, standard visitation sucks bad in Texas, especially that she already lives in another state. She has huge momentum on her side, unless you can come up with some serious dirt on her. For example, if her new home has a meth lab in the kitchen...go for custody.