I'm sorry if you thought I was argumentative, that was not my intention.
"Thing here is that your theory really will reverse from year to year, so once done consistantly will effectively fullfill the courts orders."
That is exactly what I'm thinking, but, my ex refuses to a acknowlege the fact that she is supposed to have the kids on New Years eve and therefore won't follow it. That is why I am going by the shared parenting plan to the letter so all my ducks are in a row if the s*** hits the fan (which is the direction I think this is going to go).
"If she is telling you that you have the kids both days you can simply do something like send a certified letter,"
I've done exactly that in the past, she won't sign for them. Case in point, after our meeting with the social worker from the Court of Domestic relations that I mentioned in my original post, I sent both my ex and the social worker the same documents the same day at the same time- certified mail, return receipt requested. The social worker got hers the next day, I had the signature receipt back in three days. My ex however, to date, still has not signed for her's (I've tracked it on the USPS web site). So, I'm kind of at a loss for what to do now other than e-mail her.
Also as you suggested, I've been documenting everything. I think that as in your case, that this whole thing is going to end up back in court. I'm to the point now that I'm willing to have the Shared Parenting Plan modified just so things can be spelled out more clearly than what they are now and to take away any wiggle room my ex thinks she has.
I'm so fustrated with what I see as a no brainer and her antagonistic behaviour that I'm questioning whether or not I'm seeing things cleary, that's why I've posted my thoughts here.
Any more thoughts? Please post them.
phatjohn
"Thing here is that your theory really will reverse from year to year, so once done consistantly will effectively fullfill the courts orders."
That is exactly what I'm thinking, but, my ex refuses to a acknowlege the fact that she is supposed to have the kids on New Years eve and therefore won't follow it. That is why I am going by the shared parenting plan to the letter so all my ducks are in a row if the s*** hits the fan (which is the direction I think this is going to go).
"If she is telling you that you have the kids both days you can simply do something like send a certified letter,"
I've done exactly that in the past, she won't sign for them. Case in point, after our meeting with the social worker from the Court of Domestic relations that I mentioned in my original post, I sent both my ex and the social worker the same documents the same day at the same time- certified mail, return receipt requested. The social worker got hers the next day, I had the signature receipt back in three days. My ex however, to date, still has not signed for her's (I've tracked it on the USPS web site). So, I'm kind of at a loss for what to do now other than e-mail her.
Also as you suggested, I've been documenting everything. I think that as in your case, that this whole thing is going to end up back in court. I'm to the point now that I'm willing to have the Shared Parenting Plan modified just so things can be spelled out more clearly than what they are now and to take away any wiggle room my ex thinks she has.
I'm so fustrated with what I see as a no brainer and her antagonistic behaviour that I'm questioning whether or not I'm seeing things cleary, that's why I've posted my thoughts here.
Any more thoughts? Please post them.
phatjohn