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I'm 26 years old. My child is 5 years old. Right now my child has been 3 weeks in Florida with me. He lives in New Jersey with his mom, grandmother and aunt in a 2 bedroom apartment. His mom is illegal in this country.

Currently i have a permanent job with the aviation authority and I own a home with my wife. I'm planning to take my child back to his mom on Sunday. His mom had threatened me many times stating I wont see him again and many other things over the years.

Every year is a mission to be able to see my son, and during the year she bearly lets me speak with him. His mom moves constantly and for me is really hard to track her down beacuse of her illegal status, I'm afraid she will dissapear my son when I least expected.

We were never married, we only lived togheter. I have his birth certificate wich shows me as the father. Since he is here with me now in Florida, yesterday I got the packet to file for temporary custody. But I spoke today with a pro-bono lawyer at the court, and she think I can only file for custody in New Jersey.

1) Is it true that I need a paternity test even though my name is in my son's birth certificate?

2) Even though we have never been to court for custody, I will have to fiel in New Jersey instead of Florida?

3) Would the court may take into consideration her illegal status?

4) What can I do?

I'm 25 years old. My child is 5 years old. Right now my child has been 3 weeks in Florida with me. He lives in New Jersey with his mom, granmother and aunt in a 2 bedroom apartment. His mom is illegal in this country. Currently i have a permanent job with the aviation authority and I own a home with my wife. I' m planning to take my child back to his mom on Sunday. His mom had threatened me many times stating I wont see him again and many other things over the years. Every year is a mission to be able to see my son, and during the year she bearly lets me speak with him. His mom moves constantly and for me is really hard to track her down beacuse of her illegal status, I'm afraid she will dissapear my son when I least expected. Since he is here with me know in Florida, can I go to court and file for custody. What should i do. We were never married, we lived togheter for almost 2 years. I have his birth certificate wich shows me as the father. What can I do?

The BM sent me a text message stating that she went to court and the judge gave until next thursday for me to return the child, if not they will issue a warrant for my arrest. Can this be true. I have a missed call from a number that apparently is from a New Jersey court. I don't know what to do anymore.

Yesterday I got the packet to file for temporary custody. Today, I went to the court and spoke with the legal advisor, they say that since his mom lives in New Jersey and he is been here for only one month, i will have to file in New Jersey not in Florida. I'm sad because if I go to New Jersey they are more protective there with the illegal people, and I'm not sure If I have a chance. Other lawyer told me that even though my son's  birth certificate has me as the father, I will still need a paternity test to have any rights of filing for custody. Does anybody know if this is true or what can I do. It upsets me that even though she is not here legally, it feels like she has more rights than I do as a citizen. I really don't want him to go back to that life and I feel like a bad parent if I don't do nothing about it, but also I don't want to get in trouble. Thanks in advance for any advice.

I'm 26 years old. My child is 5 years old. Right now my child has been 3 weeks in Florida with me. He lives in New Jersey with his mom, granmother and aunt in a 2 bedroom apartment.  His mom is illegal in this country. Currently i have a permanent job with the aviation authority and I own a home with my wife. I' m planning to take my child back to his mom on Sunday. His mom had threatened me many times stating I wont see him again and many other things over the years. Every year is a mission to be able to see my son, and during the year she bearly lets me speak with him. His mom moves constantly and for me is really hard to track her down beacuse of her illegal status, I'm afraid she will dissapear my son when I least expected. Since he is here with me know in Florida, can I go to court and file for custody. What should i do. We were never married, we lived togheter for almost 2 years. I have his birth certificate wich shows me as the father.Any suggestions?

I'm 26 years old. My child is 5 years old. Right now my child has been 3 weeks in Florida with me. He lives in New Jersey with his mom, granmother and aunt in a 2 bedroom apartment.  His mom is illegal in this country. Currently i have a permanent job with the aviation authority and I own a home with my wife. I' m planning to take my child back to his mom on Sunday. His mom had threatened me many times stating I wont see him again and many other things over the years. Every year is a mission to be able to see my son, and during the year she bearly lets me speak with him. His mom moves constantly and for me is really hard to track her down beacuse of her illegal status, I'm afraid she will dissapear my son when I least expected. Since he is here with me know in Florida, can I go to court and file for custody. What should i do. We were never married, we lived togheter for almost 2 years. I have his birth certificate wich shows me as the father.Any suggestions?

Two years ago I moved from N.J. to Florida., my son and my baby mom were supposed to come with me. The day I went to picked them up she refused to come because her mom lives there in N.J. and  she had no friends in Florida. My intention was to provide a decent life for my son and her. Months after I learned the real reason why she stayed, she was with someone else and she was pregnant from him.

Every time I fly to New Jersey to see my son I have to go on a manhunt to find her, she moves all the time. I've explained to her that besides paying for his health insurance and instead of me sending her goods and clothing for my son every month I've rather put myself in child support but she refuses, she threatened me that if I do she will run away with my son and I'll never see him again. She has court fear because she is illegal in this country.

I went to see my son who is now 4 years old on mid-august and I was there on my three days off with my fiance, I could tell my son was on a desperate need of love and attention it was obvious. Since she saw how good my fiance was to my son she said I could take him to Florida for 2 weeks because she needed a break.

So even though it was expensive I drove with my fiance the following week on my days off and  picked up my son. I was amazed how in 2 weeks he didn't missed his mom or granma and how I had to run after him and begged him to talk to his mom on the phone. When he was here his mom was calling him 2 times a day.

When it was time to go back we all went toghether, my fiance, me and my son. When he noticed we were in N.J. and saw the door of his mom apt. he said "daddy I don't want to go in there, please". When his mom came out he had a terror face. The first thing she said to my son was "welcome back to bootcamp". She told me will get him again for christmas. When I said goodbye to my son, he started crying and grabbed me by my shirt and said don't leave me here daddy, I want to go with you to florida. Then she jumped in and said daddy is going to the store he'll be right back,(of course anything to make me look bad). I left it there, I didn't wanted my son to be there crying.

While he was here he was happy and he mentioned several things. He said his mom has no time for him, she is always wroking or sleeping. I learned she works on a bar at night and sleeps all day until is time to go to work and her mom takes care of him.  The nickname they called him by is  "bitch" but in spanish. He said his mom always hits him with a belt and that he rarely goes to the park.  My ex-sister in law told me that the grandma always yells at him and says bad words to him constantly. I also believe she might be using my son's social to obtain goods, since she is illegal.

I called DYFS asked to remain anonymously and asked them to check how is my son being treated and review the emotional and verbal abuse my son was going through, since it was affecting his behavior, my intention was to make sure my son was ok, plus I  was afraid they were selling drugs from the apt. because of a conversation I heard when I picked up my son. The lady from DYFS told me nothing will be done unless she was positive in the drug test and besides she is doing better than the last time because before she was living in a hotel, she said that some girl called DYFS before and my baby mom was positive for drugs at that time.

MY baby mom called me insulted me and said to forget about my son, and that he wasn't coming for christmas, now don't let me talk to my son anymore, she said she has a friend that worked in DYFS and she told her it was me the one that called. I call every week and she hangs up on me all the time. I'm afraid she is telling my son that I forgot about him, that I'm not calling him no more or bad things to change his mind about me. What should I do, now I want custody of him, I don't want him to grow up bitter like her or do drugs like his grandmother, he deserves an  opportunity in life an be treated with love on a steady household.



I own my home in Florida with my fiance and I hold a permanent job with the local government. What will be the best thing for me to do. If I go to court. I'm afraid she will run away to her country or hide my son, someone please help me.