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At one time my ex was behind in child support.  Every year they intercepted his tax refund check automatically without me doing anything.  The last year they did that ex was making extra payments to try and catch up.  When OSCE filed the intercept he was XXX dollars behind, but by the time they actually received the tax check he was not that much behind.  They cut him a check for the extra money they collected and mailed it to him.

Just giving a possibilty, they may start cutting you a check for what your work sends in every week until your credit is zero.

Ok he called his lawyer and she said the same thing.  She said the only thing the judge will look at is six months worth of pay.  She said the only thing that will help is if someone from his work comes in and testifies that this is permanent.
He works at a large factory.  Orders are low right = no overtime.  Scrap rate is very high = no bonus/incentive.  No one can come in and say that this is permanent. But no one knows that this won't last for a long time.
So I am new at being on this end of the spectrum.  I am a single mom who gets child support.  My Ex and I when ever there is a change in circumstances, sign an agreed mod. and turn it into the child support office. No questions asked, no problem.
His ex will not do this.  She lives off of her child support from him and another man.  She supports her boyfriend who lives with her and also does not have a job.  When he asked her about lowering the child support she said there was no way she could make it with less money.  
So I read on Soc's board that it is illegal for child support to be more than 50% of your take home pay, but how can they say he isn't entitled to a reduction?

My boyfriend has recently experienced an extreme cut in pay due to his work.  They have cut off all overtime and bonus.  This has resulted in about $2000 less per month.  This has been going on for about 3 months now.  He can no longer pay his bills and child support both.  He is current and pays child support first before he worries about his bills.

He went to the child support office to try to get a reduction.  They keep saying the only go by last year's gross income.  Last year was a lot different pay was much better.  He took them paycheck stubs since November thru this week and they will still not consider a reduction.  They told him to wait until the end of June and if his pay remains the same they will consider.

He will not make it financially until June.  He is currently paying more than 50% of his take home pay.  Is there anything he can do?  Do you think getting a lawyer would make any difference?

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State: IN

My aunt passed away on Thursday.  She has been away from the family for a long time now. She had no life insurance or any money.  My family was wanting to sell her truck to help pay for the funeral.  She had one child, who is now 20 and her father had sole custody.  There is a child support lien on the vehicle.  We have tried to reach the daughter to get funeral arrangements and POA take care of, but her father doesn't want any communication from our family.  

Is there any way to get a lien removed due to death?

Can anyone in my family get POA due to the lack of communication?

Thank You

As a product of a divorced family, I would say I would lean toward Angel's advice.  I understand that you and your husband care about the safety of the girls.  But I'm afraid if you keep pushing you will lose them forever.  During the teenage years it is natural for a female to pull away from her father and want to be with friends more.  I think they may be using the divorce as an excuse.

My sister and I visited my father every weekend for quite sometime. Then my sister hit her teen years and was the first to rebel against dad and dad's more strict rules.  She stopped visiting when she was about 17.   I started to rebel at around 16. It wasn't so much that I didn't want to see my dad, because I spent little time with my mom either.  I just wanted to be with my friends.  Dad and I got in a big fight about him trying to make me stay there.  I left that night and didn't go back for anymore visitations. He started calling a couple of months after the fight and we put things behind us. I didn't have visitation with him anymore, But we would still go out to eat pizza and have birthday and Christmas's together.

I am now 28,  I have an awesome relationship with my dad.  We live in the same town and my son and I see him at least twice a week. And honestly I am probably more close to him than I am my mom.
I suggest you stop trying to force them to visit.  They my just be using the divorce for an excuse.  Call them on you weekend and ask them out for pizza or something like that.  Take them home afterwards if they want.  You may miss them now, but I'm sure you will reap the benefits later.