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Hello All,
  I am the Father of a wonderful little boy that lives in Minnesota, and I live in New York. I try and see my son on every other holiday ( the way his mother wants it) but latley she's been unwilling to let me have him on major holidays. I try and see my son as much as possible, and I pay support and have him covered on my health insurance (which she refuses to use.) It is very expensive to go and visit him, and even more expensive for him to come see me, but my wife and I do our best. My question is, without ever having been to court and/or having any visitation orders in place, what are her resposibilities as far as me seeing my son? Does she have to meet me halfway? Can I get a visitation schedule set up that will let me see my boy and not break me financially? Someone please help! If anyone has any information, has been through the same ordeal, or has info on legal representation, please, please contact me. Thank you for taking the time to read this.

I am new to this site, and I am beginning the process of fighting for custody of my 6 yr. old son. I live in NY state, and my son lives in Minnesota. I see him at every opportunity, traveling the 2200(round trip) miles to see my son on holidays. Now, I am not rich by any means, and have a new baby boy with my wife to raise also, and my ex constantly tells me to send her money(on top of paying child support for my son-$300.00 am month plus full medical and dental coverage) or I can't see or talk to my son any more. She says that she has sole custody because we were never married and she lives in MN, but can any one tell me-Do I have a case here? She is not an unfit mother, but can't seem to finacially take care of my son.  Some people have told me that she has to meet me halfway if I get joint custody or holiday visitation. Is this true? I need some help here. If anyone has a list of lawyers or resources, I can use the help. Please, someone give me some insights!Thank you for taking the time to read this.